Bad news.(UPDATE pg 3)

Original post by Goldi1021

Dec 31, 2005 08:36 PM

It seems as if Mom's condition is a lot worse than we thought. She has two broken vertebrae and has two choices. She can either a) Stay on her back for 12 weeks in DALLAS where she is right now. OR b) Have surgery and 2 weeks of rehab and will possibly be able to fly home with enough time for some therapy in NY. She could feasibly fly now and have surgery here but if her condition worsened for the sake of our convenience I would never forgive myself. I asked my sister the risks of surgery - she hasnt gotten an answer but we know it could be paralysis or worse- something I am not prepared to think about right now.

All of the last minute stuff I need Mom for now, I will have to do alone or with my sister. It wasnt supposed to be this way. Thanks in advance for all of your support.

MrsH1156 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 07:39 PM

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I am so sorry Leslie.

stephanief Posted: Jan 01, 2006 07:41 PM

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I am sorry for what you are going through

wendy1220 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 07:44 PM

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I'm sorry that you and your family are going through such a difficult time. Try to stay positive, I'll keep all of you in my prayers.

Goldi1021 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 08:47 PM

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First, foremost and AGAIN, I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your support.

My sister who is with Mom now will stay with her until the end of the week. I am flying down to Dallas on Friday and will stay with Mom through Monday evening returning to NY late Monday night.

Her spirits are OK I guess. She knows she cannot be moved until and unless her surgery is done and she does not have to worry about severing her spine. It seems likely that she will not be able to withstand walking down the aisle but at this point, I just want her there. It doesn't matter. I need to see her face and have her blessing. I already lost one parent this year and I won't lose a second. She just needs to be there. My siblings are all from the same school of thought. The wedding will go on no matter what. It is what the entire family wants.

Please forgive me for being philosophical, but in light of the crappy events of 2005 in my little world, that after having read all of the posts from the 05ers to us about sweating the small stuff, I just wanted to say, THEY ARE RIGHT. I am in the middle of BIG STUFF ! The likes of which, only few of you (by the grace of G-d) know about at these stages of your lives. And the rest of you should NEVER have to know.

So your dresses don't match the invites - so what.

So your MOH wants to dye her hair pink - so what.

So your FMIL wants to wear white (OK this one you can bit*h about - I'll give you THAT one).

So your FH wants a LAP DANCE from a dancer with double D's - LET HIM HAVE IT!

Basically, what I am trying to say is it can and does get worse than those things I just mentioned. I am living proof of that. Pick and choose your battles with the ones that matter.

dbonilla Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:02 PM

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Posted by Goldi1021

Please forgive me for being philosophical, but in light of the crappy events of 2005 in my little world, that after having read all of the posts from the 05ers to us about sweating the small stuff, I just wanted to say, THEY ARE RIGHT. I am in the middle of BIG STUFF ! The likes of which, only few of you (by the grace of G-d) know about at these stages of your lives. And the rest of you should NEVER have to know.

So your dresses don't match the invites - so what.

So your MOH wants to dye her hair pink - so what.

So your FMIL wants to wear white (OK this one you can bit*h about - I'll give you THAT one).

So your FH wants a LAP DANCE from a dancer with double D's - LET HIM HAVE IT!

Basically, what I am trying to say is it can and does get worse than those things I just mentioned. I am living proof of that. Pick and choose your battles with the ones that matter.

WELL SAID!!!!
I will say a prayer for you and your family.

marcandjoanna Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:07 PM

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I couldn't imagine what this must be like for you right now. I hope that your sister and friends are able to help you with the details as best as possible. I hope that your mom is okay and that you're surrounded by support and love right now. You'll be in my thoughts.

DUCKS2001 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:09 PM

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PRAYERS AND MANY HUGS IF YOU NEED ANYTHING FM ME.

Goldi1021 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:11 PM

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Thanks. My friends are really coming through for me. Even people here on LIW are offering time. It is also times like these that I am so grateful for being one of 4 kids. We have been broken this year. The thing is we have so many GOOD things to look forward to, that everytime we think we pass a hurdle and get ready to have some joy, another one comes to replace it. I suppose I can seek comfort in knowing that if my parents didn't do such a damn good job with us, we wouldn't have the knowledge necessary to take care of each other.

beautyq115 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:16 PM

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Leslie...I cannot imagine what you must be going through! Just know that you and your Mom and family are in my prayers and thoughts!

steflily Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:37 PM

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Leslie,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. A candle was lit in church today for all of you.

You put things in perspective for a lot of us. Please let us know if you need help with anything.

Goldi1021 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:48 PM

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Thanks. I take my prayers whereever I can get them. I made it through one tragedy, I can make it through another.

Kim51103 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 09:59 PM

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So sorry leslie.....

serendipity0680 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 10:23 PM

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I am so sorry. Youy and your family ar ein my thoughts & prayers.

BJandDan Posted: Jan 01, 2006 10:50 PM

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WOw Leslie. I am sitting here in tears. I had no idea how bad your moms situation was until tonight. I hope the best for her and your family. All the best of my prayers and wishes for a HEALTHY and speedy recovery!!!

diggity10 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 10:58 PM

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Leslie, you are such a strong woman. I'm sure your mother is just as strong and she will pull through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please keep us posted.

esb980 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 11:04 PM

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Leslie- I am so sorry this is happening! You and your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers.

cmastro25 Posted: Jan 01, 2006 11:10 PM

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Leslie. Gosh, I don't know what to say. I just wanted to give you and . Your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers.

seta Posted: Jan 01, 2006 11:13 PM

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Leslie, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this..my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your mom and family. It is comforting to know that your siblings are supportive.......

shellnroc Posted: Jan 01, 2006 11:17 PM

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Leslie,

I am so sorry this is happening. Your previous post regarding not stressing the small stuff, is so true. You are such a STRONG Woman!!!
My prayers go out to your mom and family.
We are ALL here for You!!