best man...not the best??
Ok girls! This might be long but it is something that bothers me. It also might come across as something highschool-ish but, here it goes...
So FHs best friend D has been prob 'THE' main area of arguementsin our relationship. When FH and I started dating D was not very fond of me...he aparently talked alot behind my back and tried to cause a fight any way he could. FH worked in alot of the clubs on LI before we dated and after he met me we started hanging out and doing other things...I think that he resented me because of this but I NEVER made him uncomfortable I even invited hom to my house whenever we had friends over. He continuosly did things to hurt me ( even after I tired to be nice to him) FH didnt know how to handle this situtation and did not really stick up for me when he should have..which is where the problem lies. FH has shown me multiple times that he cant be trusted when he is with D because D has this magical influence over him. (example- superbowl sunday. I had people over.. told FH invite D if he wnts. D was coming. I found out the night before that D wanted FH to drive him to my house! I was like I dont need him here early with you. I need you here to HELP me get things ready.. plus if he comes w/ you WE cant relax together after the game..let him come himself or with someone else. superbowl morning i called FH and was liek you took care of D right and hes like well D said he doesnt care he will come early! I was like thats not the point I dont want him here early bc then you wont be helping me tell him to come when everone else is coming...fastfoward.. i call FH to tell him he doesnt have to go to the foodstore any more and hes like ok WE are on the way...im like WE??? yup, thats right girls...he ignored me and picked D up anyway) Ok now that you understand what we are dealing with here... well it happens that D is our BESTMAN!! Im not goign to tell FH who can and cant be his best man...but of all people?? the one person that is a constant source of stress!! not to mention he never liked me when we were dating..now hes our bestman! HA!
I know that FH is more of the prob then D is at this point but we have had multiple multiple X infinity talks about this issue and I just give up...FH says if i dont want him to be friends with him then he wont be...but I DONT want to be that person!! I want them to stay friends I just want FH to respect me around D!! SOO what do you gurls think of this totally F**ked up situation??? next time it happens should I finallt put my foot down and tell FH im done with D hes not the best man...or do I continue to just deal with it???
Does anyone else have a best man that they arent fond of???![]()
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So FHs best friend D has been prob 'THE' main area of arguementsin our relationship. When FH and I started dating D was not very fond of me...he aparently talked alot behind my back and tried to cause a fight any way he could. FH worked in alot of the clubs on LI before we dated and after he met me we started hanging out and doing other things...I think that he resented me because of this but I NEVER made him uncomfortable I even invited hom to my house whenever we had friends over. He continuosly did things to hurt me ( even after I tired to be nice to him) FH didnt know how to handle this situtation and did not really stick up for me when he should have..which is where the problem lies. FH has shown me multiple times that he cant be trusted when he is with D because D has this magical influence over him. (example- superbowl sunday. I had people over.. told FH invite D if he wnts. D was coming. I found out the night before that D wanted FH to drive him to my house! I was like I dont need him here early with you. I need you here to HELP me get things ready.. plus if he comes w/ you WE cant relax together after the game..let him come himself or with someone else. superbowl morning i called FH and was liek you took care of D right and hes like well D said he doesnt care he will come early! I was like thats not the point I dont want him here early bc then you wont be helping me tell him to come when everone else is coming...fastfoward.. i call FH to tell him he doesnt have to go to the foodstore any more and hes like ok WE are on the way...im like WE??? yup, thats right girls...he ignored me and picked D up anyway) Ok now that you understand what we are dealing with here... well it happens that D is our BESTMAN!! Im not goign to tell FH who can and cant be his best man...but of all people?? the one person that is a constant source of stress!! not to mention he never liked me when we were dating..now hes our bestman! HA!
I know that FH is more of the prob then D is at this point but we have had multiple multiple X infinity talks about this issue and I just give up...FH says if i dont want him to be friends with him then he wont be...but I DONT want to be that person!! I want them to stay friends I just want FH to respect me around D!! SOO what do you gurls think of this totally F**ked up situation??? next time it happens should I finallt put my foot down and tell FH im done with D hes not the best man...or do I continue to just deal with it???
Does anyone else have a best man that they arent fond of???
