Re: Bestman stressing me out (vent)
Good for your Fh! What a jerk!
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Bestman stressing me out (vent)
Original post by JodiBabe
GRRRR...
My FH BM lives in Florida. I've just had a gut feeling that it was going to be a problem for a while.
He also has a disability and has difficulty getting clothes to fit.
We spoke to the place that we are going to use for tuxes and they said that he could get his measurements done there & call him with them & they would have a tux ready for him & if anything needed to be fixed they would do it while he was there. WELL.....he doesn't want to do that. He wants to get the same tux down there & bring it with him. He even asked me if we were paying for it or if he was. I told him that attendants pay for their own attire but if it were a problem then I'd speak to my FH. He then basically told me (but not in so many words) that since he is paying for it this was the way he was doing it!![]()
Next problem....
He has said several times that he doesn't know what he'll be doing for work then so he wasn't sure when he'd come up. We are getting married on a Sat. and will either be having a rehearsal dinner on the Thurs or Fri (not sure yet). We told him last week that he needed to be here by Wed. & he said ok. Now he just told me that he was coming up Thurs. GRRRRRRRR! He also tried to get us to invite his GF kids! NOT!!!!![]()
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Next problem.......
He just told my FH that he is coming up Wed. and will stay at our house Wed & Thurs then go to a hotel Fri when his GF flies up. I told FH that I don't think that it is a good idea. That we will have alot to do and alot will be going on. I WILL NOT be playing hostess the few days before my wedding!!!!!!!
I am soooooo stressed. This has got me so worried! I think it is even starting to worry my FH and nothing usually worries him. FH has mentioned asking him to step down & having his Dad as his Best man!
Edited to say: TOO MANY DAMN PROBLEMS FOR ME!
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My FH BM lives in Florida. I've just had a gut feeling that it was going to be a problem for a while.
He also has a disability and has difficulty getting clothes to fit.
We spoke to the place that we are going to use for tuxes and they said that he could get his measurements done there & call him with them & they would have a tux ready for him & if anything needed to be fixed they would do it while he was there. WELL.....he doesn't want to do that. He wants to get the same tux down there & bring it with him. He even asked me if we were paying for it or if he was. I told him that attendants pay for their own attire but if it were a problem then I'd speak to my FH. He then basically told me (but not in so many words) that since he is paying for it this was the way he was doing it!
Next problem....
He has said several times that he doesn't know what he'll be doing for work then so he wasn't sure when he'd come up. We are getting married on a Sat. and will either be having a rehearsal dinner on the Thurs or Fri (not sure yet). We told him last week that he needed to be here by Wed. & he said ok. Now he just told me that he was coming up Thurs. GRRRRRRRR! He also tried to get us to invite his GF kids! NOT!!!!
Next problem.......
He just told my FH that he is coming up Wed. and will stay at our house Wed & Thurs then go to a hotel Fri when his GF flies up. I told FH that I don't think that it is a good idea. That we will have alot to do and alot will be going on. I WILL NOT be playing hostess the few days before my wedding!!!!!!!
I am soooooo stressed. This has got me so worried! I think it is even starting to worry my FH and nothing usually worries him. FH has mentioned asking him to step down & having his Dad as his Best man!
Edited to say: TOO MANY DAMN PROBLEMS FOR ME!
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Re: Bestman stressing me out (vent)
I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this!! I think your FH should speak to his BM to find out if he really wants to do this. If not, it would be better for everyone involved that he not be the BM. Most important support whatever decision your FH makes because otherwise it could cause problems between the two of you. Good Luck!!
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Re: Bestman stressing me out (vent)
WTG FH!! he knows his priorities!
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Here is the lateset......
FH called BM who kept insisting that we do it HIS way (Who's wedding is this anyway?) with regard to him geting a tux in Florida.
FH relieved him of best man duties. He will ask his dad to be his best man![]()
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He also told him he can't talk to me the way he did!
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I am starting to feel better!
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FH called BM who kept insisting that we do it HIS way (Who's wedding is this anyway?) with regard to him geting a tux in Florida.
FH relieved him of best man duties. He will ask his dad to be his best man
He also told him he can't talk to me the way he did!
I am starting to feel better!
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Re: Bestman stressing me out (vent)
YEAH!!! Serves him right!![]()
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Re: Bestman stressing me out (vent)
I think that your FH is handling this situation very well. The BM might not even want to do this anymore and doesn't know how to be an adult and explain the situation to your FH, instead he will just be a jerk.
I hope his Dad is honored to be his BM.
I hope his Dad is honored to be his BM.
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His dad is a Doll! I adore his Dad as well as his Mom & the rest of his family. I'm sure his dad will be honored & I know I will have no problems with him. 2 other groomsmen are his 2 brothers in law.
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Re: Bestman stressing me out (vent)
I'm glad everything worked out for you that guy sounds like a real jerk!
