BETRAYED BY ONE BM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One of my BM is FH brother's girlfriend. I found out she's been talking to FH ex-girl friend and building a relationship with her. She is having a baby shower for her sister tomorrow and FH and I were ready to go until we found out she invited his ex girlfriend! I don't understand why she would do this to us. This is so disrespectful!!! She's done this to us before and we told her we felt uncomfortable. FH also feels betrayed by his brother because he's been hanging with his ex girl too. too much drama.

I am so pissed off and would rather not have them in the wedding. Do you think I'm wrong? FH is so mad he doesn't want his brother to be his best man anymore his brother knew the whole time FH ex-girlfriend was coming to this baby shower and never told us. His response was sort of like 'Deal with it, you will be seeing her often' I was lost for words.

I'll let FH deal with his brother, but how should I handle the situation with my BM?

His response was sort of like 'Deal with it, you will be seeing her often' I was lost for words.

Hey girl, UGH!! The problem is his family is always saying 'What the heck is his ex-girlfriend doing here.' It put's him in an awkward situation. FH says she really wasn't close to the family. She's caused a lot of Drama when FH and I first got together.

My BM clearly knows I don't like this girl. I'm just so clueless why she would invite her knowing we are going.

FH says I should have a talk with her face to face, but I don't think it will be a nice one. I'm so angry I might end up doing something to her My other BM know what's going on and they don't want her part of the bridal party.

I just see things getting worse. I'm going to sleep on it. Let's see how I feel tomorrow.

I needed that laugh. I mainly did it because she was FH brother's girlfriend and I thought she was pretty cool. Although I should've known better because me and her had problems in the past because of his ex girlfriend. History seems to be repeating itself. I'm too nice and that's going to stop!!!!! I'm getting fired up as I type this She has some nerve!!!!

I'm so surprised about his brother. That is just wrong!!!! I definitely can't let this one slide! I have to take immediate action. Do you think it's too late to get another BM to replace her?

ok wow seriously i would be PISSSSEEEEDDDDD if this was me....

heres my opinion...

first, if she's ur BM, her loyalty is to YOUUUUU not ur FH's ex...if she can't get that straight than she shouldn't be a BM

second, if she is only ur FBIL's girlfriend, not his wife, u have no obligation to include her as a BM unless u two are friends to begin with...

i totally understand why it would be hard to de-bridesmaid someone, but if all shes going to do is add drama to an experience that should be enjoyable and memorable (in a good way) for you, than she is extraneous!

one word of caution...it could cause even MORE trouble between ur FH and FBIL, so talk to ur FH before u decide, ur trying to avoid drama, not create more

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Posted by FutureMrsKuehne

ok wow seriously i would be PISSSSEEEEDDDDD if this was me....

heres my opinion...

first, if she's ur BM, her loyalty is to YOUUUUU not ur FH's ex...if she can't get that straight than she shouldn't be a BM

second, if she is only ur FBIL's girlfriend, not his wife, u have no obligation to include her as a BM unless u two are friends to begin with...

i totally understand why it would be hard to de-bridesmaid someone, but if all shes going to do is add drama to an experience that should be enjoyable and memorable (in a good way) for you, than she is extraneous!

one word of caution...it could cause even MORE trouble between ur FH and FBIL, so talk to ur FH before u decide, ur trying to avoid drama, not create more

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You're too funny ...FH family wasn't close with her and neither was his brother. Now his brother is hanging out with her because his girlfriend (which is my brides maid) is now building a relationship with her. I felt like they have been very secretive about this.

This is not the first time they do this and to have this done to us again it's a joke!!!! We don't deserve that. I thought her and I were cool,but I guess she prefers to be friends with his ex-girlfriend.

FH has a plan..LOL...his brother kind of cheated on his girlfriend 2 years ago and he plans on inviting that girl to the wedding He is friends with her and knows her very well. Revenge is sweet! That should teach them a lesson

I totally agree..she's suppose to be loyal to me, not to his ex-girlfriend. FH said he is going to speak to his parents about this tomorrow and get their opinion. FH knows I'm pissed off at his brother and he is on my side right now. He's very angry because they disrespected the both of us.

Now that my other BM know what's going on, I think it's going to be hard for everyone to pretend like nothing ever happen.

This one is going to be a tough call!

I know his family will be on our side because when they saw her a few months ago in another event, they were not happy and said that was disrespectful to us. So for this to happen again, they are going to be pissed off. Especially that FH is the youngest son and they love me They always take our side. This will create drama for FBIL and his girl friend. His parents are not going to like this.

I'm calling RK Bridal tomorrow to find out how long would it take to order another BM Dress.

I really needed this laugh!!!! TY for the advice. i will definitely check that place out

No problem. Good luck

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Posted by lola09

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Posted by LatinLady-Bride

I know his family will be on our side because when they saw her a few months ago in another event, they were not happy and said that was disrespectful to us. So for this to happen again, they are going to be pissed off. Especially that FH is the youngest son and they love me They always take our side. This will create drama for FBIL and his girl friend. His parents are not going to like this.

I'm calling RK Bridal tomorrow to find out how long would it take to order another BM Dress.

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If you can't get the dress at RK in time try Wedding Center in Commack. They got my BM's dresses in less than three weeks. That is of course if they carry your dress.

KICK HER OFF I could really use a kicking emote-icon right now .

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Girl kick her out and let FH deal with his brother. She is not your family; therefore, you have no obligation to her. Fh is the one who has to deal with his brother. If his brother thinks that FH's ex is more important than FH, then he shouldn't have him in the bridal party either.

OMG even I am angry!!!