beyond upset

inloveandgettingmarried Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:55 AM

beyond upset

Hi girls, I post on here a lot but don't want any lurkers for this topic.. I think I found out the date of my bridal shower. I am SO upset. Need some advice, should I tell FH that I think I know or keep it to myself. Don't want to share details. Just looking for some advice. Thanks.

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:56 AM

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keep it to yourself and act surprised when you get there.

MrsGRod09 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:57 AM

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I would totally tell my FH that im upset because we just have a relationship like that where we tell each other how we feel. So if you guys are open to telling each other how you feel then i would go for it.

Babydoll21 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:59 AM

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Posted by MaggieLuvsJoe

keep it to yourself and act surprised when you get there.

ditto!! I think I found out the place of mine :(
I saw a business card on the floor of my sis room...

pandafish519 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:59 AM

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i'm not going to be any help because i agree with both girls who just posted. part of me would act surprised and part of me would want to tell him. good luck!

coldasice217 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:59 AM

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This just happened to me recently...my father blew it. Under pressure from my mother, she told me not to tell FH, and I was going to abide by that....even though I blustered that I was telling everyone. Luckily, my nana blew it AGAIN, in front of him, so then I was all too happy to provide all the details. He didn't seem to care...he said the real surprise would be if we didn't have one at all!

Utterhappiness Posted: Jan 21, 2009 11:06 AM

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i would not tell... but knowing my FH he would know that I knew... I would probably try to think of the positives of the situation like being able to get extra pretty!

Here is the thing that I recently just realized. I found out some info about my shower the other day and at first I was al ittle sad but then I realized that I am honored that I am getting a shower and no matter the particulars I am super excited and thrilled!!

You cant change knowing so embrace it!

shell1879 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 11:14 AM

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i would tell FH that i was upset but if the shower is a total surpprise (or was) i would at least try to act surpprised.

gina409 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:16 PM

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if u r a good actress and can keep from being upset in front of fh..then dont tell he might get upset at who told u...if u cant help but be upset in front of him then tell he will wonder wehats wrong

krislee316 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:21 PM

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This seems to be a trend lately my dad just blew it for me over the weekend and I told FH but I tell him everything so really I am no help....I feel for you though cause i was upset also

SOTHISISLOVE53109 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:25 PM

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I'd keep it a secret they worked really hard to try and keep it from you....so id act surprised!

RPMG26599 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:29 PM

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Posted by inloveandgettingmarried

Hi girls, I post on here a lot but don't want any lurkers for this topic.. I think I found out the date of my bridal shower. I am SO upset. Need some advice, should I tell FH that I think I know or keep it to myself. Don't want to share details. Just looking for some advice. Thanks.

I'd say tell FH.....

Because.....First of all I would want it to be a surprise and second he can mention it to your fam members and maybe they can change the date.

Thats just my opinion....PLUS, I have a hard time acting surprised...LOL!

Novbride09 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:35 PM

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i would say something - mb they can change the date- but you will still know bc you know the place so when you pull up there you will know

KittyGags Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:46 PM

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Maybe its just me, but I don't understand why everyone gets so upset about this? Maybe it's because I'm the worst with surprises and I hate them, and dig and dig til I find out...lol

But I'd look at it like, at least I can pick out an outfit and be ready and cute instead of surprised and looking like eh?

JMO!

jennaandguy09 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:49 PM

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Posted by Utterhappiness

i would not tell... but knowing my FH he would know that I knew... I would probably try to think of the positives of the situation like being able to get extra pretty!

Here is the thing that I recently just realized. I found out some info about my shower the other day and at first I was al ittle sad but then I realized that I am honored that I am getting a shower and no matter the particulars I am super excited and thrilled!!

You cant change knowing so embrace it!

ITA I found out some info the other night because FH was behind the 8 ball a little, but I'm so happy I'm having one and I get to get my hair done, my make up, get all dressed up and bring my camera, I can't WAIT!!! Don't be sad, be happy and act surprised!!!!

Im a Pepper Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:51 PM

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Take it from someone who opened her mouth too much on this subject... just let it slide and keep it to yourself. Be happy and grateful that you're having a shower and let everyone who worked so hard to make a nice surprise think that they pulled it off.

inloveandgettingmarried Posted: Jan 21, 2009 12:58 PM

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Thank you for all the advice. I like the idea of being able to get dressed up and take time to do my hair and stuff. I definitely always thought about not looking nice at my shower. Part of me really hopes I am wrong, but we'll see. Thanks again.

meara Posted: Jan 21, 2009 01:01 PM

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I don't know but I'm not so attached to the surprise time. I am actually so busy that I have to pick my shower date or there would be NO way I would actually get there. . so I will be surprised by location but that's all.. IMO it's not the surprise that's important it's that they are doing it for you ..

kbond06 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 01:01 PM

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there are worse things to happen lol....yep at least you'll look your best! Don't feel bad, I had to TELL my mom and MOHs what to do b/c they have never planned one before, so I feel like I'm kinda planning my own- but whatever I'd be afaid of what I would look like if it were a complete surprise anyway hahah