BIG FIGHT WITH BM/FSIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!A BIT LONG

poogie Posted: May 08, 2007 11:41 PM

BIG FIGHT WITH BM/FSIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!A BIT LONG

*SORRY A LITTLE LONG****

OKAY THE ULTIMATE GOAL OF THE CALL TONIGHT WAS TO PISS ME OFF OR SEE HOW FAR SHE COULD GO....SINCE THE ENTIRE IN LAW FAMILY HAS BEEN TALKING BEHIND OUR BACKS......FH SISTER CALLED TO CLAIM SHE WANTED TO KNOW HOW THINGS WERE GOING....MIND YA HAVENT SPOKEN TO HER IN THREE OR MORE WEEKS.... ******** SHE WANTED TO ASK ABOUT IN A ROUND ABOUT WAY HOW COME HIS OTHER SISTER WASNT INVITED WITH A GUEST AND HOW COME NONE OF THE OLDER KIDS WERE INVITED? F#$$!!!!!! THERE ARE ABOUT 25 OLDER KIDS...I DONT THINK SO......THE NERVE...I TELL YOU I LOST MY TEMPER AND STARTING SCREAMING ABOUT THIS BEING OUR WEDDING AND EVERYONE CANT POSSIBLY HAVE A SMILE ON THEIR FACE THAT DAY BECAUSE IT WENT THEIR WAY...OH NO I AM THE AND WHAT I SAY GOES...WITH A LITTLE INPUT FROM MY ...MY MOM EVEN TOLD ME....AFTER I ASKED....THAT NO ONE FROM FH's FAMILY CALLED TO OFFER OR EVEN FIND OUT IF THERE WAS GOING TO BE A SHOWER....MY DAUGHTER AND SISTER CALLED FSIL's AND LEFT MESSAGES AND NO ONE CALLED BACK....TELL ME IF I AM WRONG....I WASNT AWARE OF FH's SISTER BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP.....**** I DONT KNOW THE LAST TIME I SPOKE WITH HER.......AND THATS WHY (RELATIONSHIP WISE) THAT I DIDNT INVITE WITH A GUEST....WAS I WRONG? SHOULD I HAVE FEELINGS ESPCIALLY IF FH SAYS HE COULD CARE LESS IF SHE COMES OR NOT....NOW THE FAMILY IS LOOKING AT ME LIKE IM THE WITCH BRIDE........ AM I

CrisiDrue Posted: May 08, 2007 11:56 PM

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You are absolutely NOT the witch bride. Some people are just a$$holes when it comes to the wedding, and they have to make things all about themselves. If you want to smooth things over, I would tell her that you didn't realize that she was dating someone, and only ppl that are in relationships were invited with a guest (and no one bothered to mention it to you that she was in a relationship). IMHO, I would have FH talk to his family to straighten things out. As long as he's on your side 100%, I wouldn't really worry about it.

poogie Posted: May 09, 2007 12:00 AM

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Posted by CrisiDrue

You are absolutely NOT the witch bride. Some people are just a$$holes when it comes to the wedding, and they have to make things all about themselves. If you want to smooth things over, I would tell her that you didn't realize that she was dating someone, and only ppl that are in relationships were invited with a guest (and no one bothered to mention it to you that she was in a relationship). IMHO, I would have FH talk to his family to straighten things out. As long as he's on your side 100%, I wouldn't really worry about it.

FH IS ON MY SIDE 200% HE SAYS HE COULD CARE LESS ABOUT HIS FAMILY XCEPT FOR HIS PARENTS AND GRANDMA.....OTHERWISE HE WOULDNT HAVE INVITED ANY OF THEM BECAUSE WHEN HE NEEDED THEM IN HIS LIFE THEY WERE NOT THERE...............I AM THE PEACEMAKER SO I THOUGHT

PegaLega Posted: May 09, 2007 12:29 AM

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You are absolutely not wrong in anyway. People just dont get the $$$ of things until they are in your shoes. Regardless of that-expecting to be invited with a guest when you arent close to someone nor in a relationship I think is ridiculous

Ignore her!

diva7531 Posted: May 09, 2007 07:20 AM

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You are 100% correct Andrea, don't let the inlaws boss you around!!! F#$% them!

dancerandchef Posted: May 09, 2007 07:36 AM

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You are definetly not wrong. Some people think that our special day is also their special day and that we have to please them here and there which is absolutely crazy.

~dancer and chef~

Kelly79 Posted: May 09, 2007 09:35 AM

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You are not wrong!

Like you said, it is YOUR wedding....the only two people who really need to be 'happy' is you and your fh.

Ignore her and her stupid comments.

Sorry you had to deal with this stress that you really do not need right now!

JenNDan07 Posted: May 09, 2007 09:38 AM

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You are denfinitely not wrong. People have a lot of nerve sometimes! They don't realize how much things cost when planning a wedding. It is your day not theirs!

PattyK Posted: May 09, 2007 10:15 AM

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You are not wrong. Try not to let your inlaws get to you!!

poogie Posted: May 09, 2007 11:10 AM

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THANKS LADIES FOR READING AND SUPPORTING...I WILL TELL YOU THIS IS THE TRUE TEST OF OUR LOVE FOR EACHOTHER (FH & I) THE DEVIL KEEPS COMING WITH HIS FIRE

rkl1130 Posted: May 09, 2007 11:13 AM

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Oh no--I'm so sorry.

You are most certainly not in the wrong. YOUR day is not everyone else's day! FH also agrees with you, so screw the in-laws!

ErinC0119 Posted: May 09, 2007 11:17 AM

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Yea screw the in-laws!!
I have had a similar situation. My FH dad has a problem that he didnt choose his brother to be the best man. THey had a huge fight. I told my FH this our day and we ultimately make the decisions and I would support him with every decision he makes. He told his father that he needed to deal with it and he has.

StarryEyedBride Posted: May 09, 2007 11:31 AM

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Don't let these people get under your skin. That's beyond rude to call and confront you on a decision you make. You and FH! Its not cool. Forget all about it, FH is with you, we're all with you, you can't make everyone happy and you shouldn't have to! People crawl out of the woodwork when weddings come around. Blow it off - don't let them bring you down

army wife to be Posted: May 10, 2007 02:09 PM

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aw well hopefully after the wedding they all just go away again!! haha. but no ur def not the witch bride. I hate wen ppl try to start problems wen it is of no concern of theirs. It's not her day so she needs to back off. Why is she one of the BM's btw??