anyone thinking of doing black tie?? I'm not sure how this would work, what if someone doesn't have a tux, do they still rent one, or can they go in a black tie and suit?? Do you think i could pull it off??
IMO, i think it's hard to pull off. it's a lot to ask from all of the guests.
great idea!! Thanks!!
I would put black tie optional because I feel that it is a lot to ask of the guests...
Optional is a good idea. I can recall my dad not being too happy about it when my parents were invited to a black tie only affair.
I was considering this because I want a formal wedding, but i doubt many people own tuxes and they're all going to have to pay for travel and hotels already. It's too much of an inconvience. As long as they wear a suit and tie I'm ok with it. At FH's brother's wedding someone showed up wearing a Hawaiian shirt and shorts!
i say do optional. b/c it tells the guests its a very formal affair. but lets them off the hook if they dont own one but they know they still need to dress especially nice
optional, it's just too much to ask of people these days... most people don't have tuxes or long dresses for the ladies
Posted by mpasquar81
I was considering this because I want a formal wedding, but i doubt many people own tuxes and they're all going to have to pay for travel and hotels already. It's too much of an inconvience. As long as they wear a suit and tie I'm ok with it. At FH's brother's wedding someone showed up wearing a Hawaiian shirt and shorts!
Posted by lealea
haha I guess optional is a choice..but I dont really see the point in optional...dont most people these days know that a wedding is formal? I mean you can send the hint of a formal wedding with out saying black tie optional...Alot depends on the day and time...black tie even if its optional is def not apropriate for a day wedding. so most likely it would be a sat night wedding..which most people would already consider formal...so isnt black tie opntional a little bit, i dont know, unnescessary??
Hmm.. not sure on this one, I guess if you have alot of people coming for places where they dont have formal weddings it would be more appropriate...otherwise I think that your guests will get the hint. JMO... I have actually heard of people declining an invite because its black tie... i guess you knwo your guests best...
Posted by bluegreen08
Posted by lealea
haha I guess optional is a choice..but I dont really see the point in optional...dont most people these days know that a wedding is formal? I mean you can send the hint of a formal wedding with out saying black tie optional...Alot depends on the day and time...black tie even if its optional is def not apropriate for a day wedding. so most likely it would be a sat night wedding..which most people would already consider formal...so isnt black tie opntional a little bit, i dont know, unnescessary??
Hmm.. not sure on this one, I guess if you have alot of people coming for places where they dont have formal weddings it would be more appropriate...otherwise I think that your guests will get the hint. JMO... I have actually heard of people declining an invite because its black tie... i guess you knwo your guests best...
I'm not looking to start drama or hijack the thread, but black tie optional is more common than you might think for Sunday afternoon weddings, especially when it's a Jewish wedding. Jews aren't supposed to get married on Shabbat, which rules out Fri night, Sat afternoon and Sat night during months when sundown is on the later side. My parents have been to many formal Sunday afternoon weddings. Don't think any were 'black tie' but they were almost all 'black tie optional'
Everyone likes to assume their guests will dress appropriately, but a lot of times people prefer a heads up. Another bride mentioned someone coming to a Sat night wedding at Leonard's in khakis.If you want it to be formal, I think it's a good idea to note it just in case. I would say best to avoid 'Black Tie' unless you expect everyone to rent tuxes.
I wanted to do black tie. My Mom talked me out of it. She thought asking people to wear tuxes was a lot. I guess I could understand where she was coming from. But, I like the fact of everyone looking elegant.
Posted by flairforfashion
I wanted to do black tie. My Mom talked me out of it. She thought asking people to wear tuxes was a lot. I guess I could understand where she was coming from. But, I like the fact of everyone looking elegant.
Posted by KristiAnn923
Posted by flairforfashion
I wanted to do black tie. My Mom talked me out of it. She thought asking people to wear tuxes was a lot. I guess I could understand where she was coming from. But, I like the fact of everyone looking elegant.
Same here. My mom thought it was to much to ask for. Someone else said that it is nice to leave the tuxes to the groom and bridal party. It allows them to stand out.
After all the back and fourth, I may do optional but I am still unsure.
I also think optional is the best idea.
Posted by bridej9
Posted by KristiAnn923
Posted by flairforfashion
I wanted to do black tie. My Mom talked me out of it. She thought asking people to wear tuxes was a lot. I guess I could understand where she was coming from. But, I like the fact of everyone looking elegant.
Same here. My mom thought it was to much to ask for. Someone else said that it is nice to leave the tuxes to the groom and bridal party. It allows them to stand out.
After all the back and fourth, I may do optional but I am still unsure.
That is really funny because my mom keeps wanting me to have black tie and I think its too much for people (more than 50% will be OOTs).
you could do black tie optional written on the invite....i think it really depends on the place your having your wedding.....if its a super fancy place, and both of your families come from money sure.....but if your families arent particularly wealthy then people might take the tux rental out of your gift!
