BM advice... need help! (little long)

I'm so torn and I feel really terrible. Just for a little back story... FH and I decided that we were only going to do a MOH and BM - no one else in the bridal party. So I had a VERYYYYYYY had time choising between my 2 best friends. I went with the one that I felt would take it harder if I didn't ask her. But now, I know my other best friend is upset (she hasn't said anything and never would she does understand!). I really want her to be in the bridal party the more I think about it. She is my oldest friend, we have been best friends for the past 15 years and I feel like I'm just leaving her out. FH's BM is my brother and FH doesn't have any other close enough friends he'd want in the BP. (When FH and I got prego his friends slowly slipped away bc he grew up and they DIDN'T!) Anyway... I don't want it to be like the whole BP is all MY people you know? or am I crazy?? FH said if thats what I really want its ok, but I know it upsets him he doesn't have anyone else close enough and I don't want to be rubbing it in his face. idk what to do I really don't want to upset FH in anyway but I also don't want my other best friend to feel left out. Also, is it like I waited too long?? I asked MOH in April. I'm so torn!!!!!!!!!

why cant you have 2 maid of honors? and no bms?

FH has two best men bc he has 2 best friends that he would never choose btw

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Posted by J79

why cant you have 2 maid of honors? and no bms?

FH has two best men bc he has 2 best friends that he would never choose btw

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agreed! there's no reason why you can't do whatever you want.

if she's that special to u, have her!

My BP is uneven - i think it's fine :)

also i'm not in one of my best friends weddings, and it really hurts (even though like ur friend i'd never say anything cause I understand). But it's really an honor to be in a wedding, and if she's special to u - just have her; you dont want any regrets :)

HTH

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Posted by J79

why cant you have 2 maid of honors? and no bms?

FH has two best men bc he has 2 best friends that he would never choose btw

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I was going to say the same thing - I have 2 MOHs (one's a maid of honor and ones a matron) and FH has his brother as the BM.

Does FH have any close family member, like a cousin, that he could make a GM?

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Posted by allornil

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Posted by J79

why cant you have 2 maid of honors? and no bms?

FH has two best men bc he has 2 best friends that he would never choose btw

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agreed! there's no reason why you can't do whatever you want.

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ITA

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Posted by FutureJOC

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Posted by J79

why cant you have 2 maid of honors? and no bms?

FH has two best men bc he has 2 best friends that he would never choose btw

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I was going to say the same thing - I have 2 MOHs (one's a maid of honor and ones a matron) and FH has his brother as the BM.

Does FH have any close family member, like a cousin, that he could make a GM?

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No, he comes from a family of all females. and his brothers are too young and out of control

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Posted by allornil

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Posted by J79

why cant you have 2 maid of honors? and no bms?

FH has two best men bc he has 2 best friends that he would never choose btw

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agreed! there's no reason why you can't do whatever you want.

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agreed!

I have way more BMs than my FH has GMs.

I have 8 girls and he has 4 mayb 5.

I originally left out one of my oldest friends because I already have 7 girls and FH only had 4. Well she expressed to me how she felt (she was upset), and I felt horrible that i didn't as her in the first place. I explained to her that I had so many people already and that's why I didn't ask her originally. I decided to ask her anyways.

I asked my whole bridal party last October, and I just asked my last friend this July.

Explain it to her and then ask her to be in you BP. You shouldnt have to hurt yourself or your friends because FH only has 1 person and you have 2. If I were you I would definitely ask her.

HTH!

typically a moh walks down by hereself. i was moh for my sister and i walked down by myself

honestly, do whatever it is you want and dont over think it. this girl is obvi very important to you and if you want her part of the wedding, do it

there really is no right or wrong here and everybody has different bridal parties

you all are totally right... idk why I even waited this long!!!!!!! I'm just being so silly!!! Thank you so much for all your help!!! I'm definietly asking her!!! I know FH will be fine and I am just totally overthinking this!!

If the maid of honor walks down by herself typically who walks down with the best man??

I guess I could have that be the other girl right? esp since my MOH and BM do not like each other at all lol

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Posted by njoseph8

you all are totally right... idk why I even waited this long!!!!!!! I'm just being so silly!!! Thank you so much for all your help!!! I'm definietly asking her!!! I know FH will be fine and I am just totally overthinking this!!

If the maid of honor walks down by herself typically who walks down with the best man??

I guess I could have that be the other girl right? esp since my MOH and BM do not like each other at all lol

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I could be totally wrong, but I think that BM walks in with FH right?? Not sure!

maybe they all walk down by themselves. its not like you have this huge bp that if everybody walks down by themselves it will take 10 minutes

its your wedding! do it however you want.

i'm thinking i want my sister (matron of honor) to walk down with my bro-in-law (groomsmen)...which technically isnt the norm, but i want my sister to walk down with her husband

You should have her in it if you are that close with her and she is your BF of 15 years...Have 2 MOHs and no Bms! My BP is uneven...and its working out just fine

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Posted by Melissa1012

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Posted by njoseph8

you all are totally right... idk why I even waited this long!!!!!!! I'm just being so silly!!! Thank you so much for all your help!!! I'm definietly asking her!!! I know FH will be fine and I am just totally overthinking this!!

If the maid of honor walks down by herself typically who walks down with the best man??

I guess I could have that be the other girl right? esp since my MOH and BM do not like each other at all lol

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I could be totally wrong, but I think that BM walks in with FH right?? Not sure!

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yea!!! I totally forgot that!! lol

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Posted by njoseph8

wait... so if BM is already at the alter with FH... then does it look worse for FH that I have 2 people walking down and he has none?!?!?! Idk why im stressing this bc im sure he could care less... hes the MOST laid back person ever.... im the high strung one as you can see lol

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I'm not having the GM's walk down the aisle at all. They wil ALLL be at the altar and the girls will walk up the aisle alone. Then, after the ceremony, they will pair off and walk back out of church with the GM's

If you have 2 girls, they could eachjust take the arm of your best man and all walk out together. OR, they could all walk back out seperately.

Ask the girl. The set up and logisitcs are not that big of a deal, I promise.

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Posted by JLWSJC

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Posted by njoseph8

wait... so if BM is already at the alter with FH... then does it look worse for FH that I have 2 people walking down and he has none?!?!?! Idk why im stressing this bc im sure he could care less... hes the MOST laid back person ever.... im the high strung one as you can see lol

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I'm not having the GM's walk down the aisle at all. They wil ALLL be at the altar and the girls will walk up the aisle alone. Then, after the ceremony, they will pair off and walk back out of church with the GM's

If you have 2 girls, they could eachjust take the arm of your best man and all walk out together. OR, they could all walk back out seperately.

Ask the girl. The set up and logisitcs are not that big of a deal, I promise.

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You're absolutely right!!! Thank you!!!!!!