when my gf had her shower Ii told them what dates worked and what dates didn't. They happened to plan it on a Sunday the week I was leaving for vacay. So I didn't say anything to her about it and I just left the shower a bit early since I was supposed to leave on Friday night. I postponed my vacation for her. As much as I was annoyed I made sure I would be there on her special day—i wanted to be there.
For her bachelorette, her MOH planned it the day another BM had her bday plans. My friend scratched her plans with all of her friends for her bparty and never said a word to her about it. As much as she was annoyed she wanted to be there.
IMO if you are a friend (and a BM) you do what you have to to be there on these special days. She shouldn't have said that to you until she tried to change her plans.
Col—you have a right to be annoyed but I wouldn't let it get to you I would just say to her...sorry that it's planned on your anniversary I didn't realize but I really hope you can make it. Just leave it at that.
thank you tanya! if you knew this girl- you would understand even more... it doesnt come as a surprise at all. i dont ask for much but it is the one event in my life thats about me and i just dont care. i just wanted to ***** a little... wether she goes or not - it will be a beautiful day:) thanks for the support
you know it! sorry you have to go through this!!!
pjc92980
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it sucks that she said that, but yes some people do make plans this far in advance. My sister spoke to my BP about a shower date and there was only one saturday out of May and June that worked for everyone so she told them that is the date. It is hard to coordinate around everyones schedule but if youre having a small BP asking them before planning may be best. I already told my girls when my bachelorette is and thats not til July...just wanted to avoid any problems like this. Best thing to reply is 'ok keep me posted, I would hate for you to miss it'. keep it short and sweet and let her see what she can do.
Jsquared
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you cant possibly plan around other peoples schedules. It may be her anniversary that day, your other bms birthday the following week.
It doesnt make you a bridezilla..I would say to her ' I didnt realize it was on your anniversary, let me know if you can make it' and thats it.
I have become such a beast since this wedding planning began because it amazes me how people make everything about them !
