BM CAUSING DRAMA VENT (LONG)

I will try and make a long story short:
There are 4 of us from H.S.
We have been in each other's weddings. I was MOH in my friend's wedding and a BM in my other friend's wedding. Well,when I got engaged, I made the friend, who's wedding I was MOH in, my Matron of Honor. I made the other friend one of my BM's. Now my Matron of Honor just had a baby girl and made the OTHER BM the Godmother. Ok, no big deal. What REALLY makes me FUMING MAD is that what I knew all along has been confirmed true....the girl who is the Godmother told everyone that I was DEVASTATED and UPSET! The subject of 'How are we going to tell Denise?' was discussed for at least a week without my knowledge...WHEN did I EVER say I was upset?
Apparently, she told everyone I was HURT and ANGRY and we had a big fight about it...
WHAT??? I hate this crap!
'Awww...poor Denise is going to be so upset and hurt that SHE isn't the godmother.'
IM NOT UPSET!!!!! What makes me upset is that MY FEELINGS are being discussed behind my back and MY OWN BRIDESMAID is blatantly fabricating a story about how HURT AND TRAUMATIZED I am over this to make herself seem so IMPORTANT!
I know, it seems I do care b/c I just wrote a novel, but it's not the actual act of not being chosen, it's all the drama based on my PERCEIVED reaction to all this!

SORRY SO LONG.....


Edited cause I wrote a novel...

Make a point of speaking to your MOH about the situation- just so SHE knows how you feel. - as for the other BM who's causing all of the drama - I personally wouldn't give her the satisfaction of an argument OR an explanation. - Sounds to me like she's missing the whole POINT of being chosen as the baby's godmother - it's not about 'haha she likes me better than Denise !!'
I can relate to your aggravation though. -It's like now, no matter how much you swear up and down you're not offended, eveyone is going to assume you are. and 'oh poor Denise'
- Obviously your BM has jealousy issues. - Try not to let it get to you
Easier said than done, I know!!

I agree, you should def. talk with your MOH. She should know both sides of the story. I'm so sorry you're stuck going through this. It's the last thing anyone would want to deal with.

let it go, we women are emotional and I truly understand how you feel was in the same situation with my girlfriends but the reason it does not bother me is my motto is: I'd rather be on the giving end than the receiving end' therefore I am truly blessed and not needing anything from anyone material, title, status, etc...think about it good luck

I would probably clear the air at one of your Saturday lunches.

I will never understand why people create drama?

Sorry you are going through this

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Posted by ChristineC68

I would probably clear the air at one of your Saturday lunches.

I will never understand why people create drama?

Sorry you are going through this

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I agree. Let me ask you this, is she engaged, or seeign someone? Maybe she is a little jealous abotu all the attention you are getting. Definitely talk to your MOH and I woudl talk to her too and find otu where she got the idea you were so upset and why she feels the need to broadcast it?

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Posted by shelly3950

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Posted by ChristineC68

I would probably clear the air at one of your Saturday lunches.

I will never understand why people create drama?

Sorry you are going through this

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I agree. Let me ask you this, is she engaged, or seeign someone? Maybe she is a little jealous abotu all the attention you are getting. Definitely talk to your MOH and I woudl talk to her too and find otu where she got the idea you were so upset and why she feels the need to broadcast it?

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I agree....

Sometimes people like to invent problems so that they can solve them.

I'd just pull your MOH aside and tell her that you don't know where the other BM got this idea. I'm SURE that she'll believe you - you were her MOH!!!!!