How many of you are having BMs contribute to the shower? I was thinking my mom would cover this, but I was wondering if you are having your girls contribute. If so, how much?
My mom (mom and dad) paid for my shower and my girls organized the entertainment (games, they wrote poems, etc.)
I know that 'traditionally' it's the bridal party that pays for the shower, but IMHO I think it's A LOT to ask of your girls. They have a ton of expenses as it is - buying a dress, engagement gift, shower gift, bachelorette party, hair and makeup, and a wedding gift - I didn't feel right asking them to contribute $$ to my shower.
michesq
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mom probably then girls do favors, prizes, games, etc, that is what we did recently for my friend's shower
Smde39
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My mom and my five girls are splitting it. I dont think its to much money to be split 6 ways. I hope not anyways.
angl2001
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my girls covered it themselves!!
DCW 2008
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My mom paid for my shower. My BM wouldn't contribute.
jonsgirl04
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My mom just said to me that so far none of my girls are helping or even throwing any ideas at her, its very frustrating!
traditionally, its the bms that pay for a shower but my mom is splitting it with them
SoonToBeMrsSchombs
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I've found mixed answers on this topic. I've been in quite a few bridal parties, and every time I've contributed to the shower. I know sometimes the mother throws it, but IMO, if my mother is helping me pay for my wedding (about 60%) why should she pay for all of my shower? Some of my BM's have mentioned to me they've heard that traditionally the MOB pays. So, I guess, it's a matter of preference and who can afford to pay. I told my girls that they need to figure it out with my mom....
Soon2BMrsC09
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my girls = 0% my mom = 100%
i dont know if it is because it is the first time they are all BM or whatever it is, my mom had jumped in before anyone could have offered too...
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I know my mom is paying for most of the shower. I think the BM are trying to pay for favors and/or prizes for the games and their gifts. I'm not sure what else they are trying to contribute. Only 1 of them has money to cover costs, so I knew most would fall on my moms shoulders.
JenNDan07
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My shower was split b/w my 6 girls.
songwriterchic
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my mom covered the whole thing, but the girls helped me unwrap gifts, wrote down what each person got, and made the silly hat with the ribbons.
sweetdoublenn
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Don't get me started on this topic...LOL My bridesmaids, MOH and my mom are paying for my shower!!! I have an out of town BM who will be coming up a few days before the wedding...she is already paying for hotel, airfare, car, and her dress!
eoconnell09
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I was in 6 BP so far and the bridesmaids covered everything in all but 1.....I am having 7 bridesmaids and I think that they are going to split it with my mother. I know that it is a lot to ask of them, but I am also easy and would love having it at someone's house!!!
I think that it is a lot to ask of one person.....especially my mother who is already helping so much!!
KPAC
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My FISL we are cover the decorations which is $50 and our own gift.
I think that is perfectly fine! It's not an outragious amount, so i'm happy to help.
smplynluv
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My mom and fmil split the cost of the shower. My sister (moh) helped plan alot of it too. She also collected money from all the bm's to chip in for a gift for me. I think each girl contributed $160 to my gift.
SoonToBeMrsScott
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my girls are covering it
MrsInglima
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I can't vote for some reason, but I'm going to ask them all to contribute an even amount. Something small, though. I'm doing a rather cheap Bridal Shower, and planning it myself, because no one has the time to do it, and the people who should plan it either a. don't have the money or b. don't want to.
