BM Dilemma

So I've pretty much decided on my bridal party except for 2 girls, I'm not sure if I want 2 of my cousins or 2 of my friends....I need your help....

my 2 cousins, we've never been close, I actually havent even seen them since September and that was only bc it was my engagement party, we no longer spend holidays together (we used to when we were kids), they know nothing about my life or wedding plans but they are my cousins and I don't know if they would be offended by not putting them in my bridal party, I don't want to start family drama with my aunt/uncle and my dads side of the family

my 2 friends, I talk to them almost on a daily basis, we hang out alot and I am always filling them in on my wedding details, they are so excited for me and are always there to listen. I feel very close to them and I have been for the part 2 years, I would love for them to be in my BP.

ALso.....my BP is already big and I don't want to add all 4 so thats not an option

So do i go with my 2 cousins (who are sisters by the way so its all or none cause I wouldnt be able to choose just one) or my 2 friends??

HELP

Sounds like you made a decision from your post...you obviously don't want your cousins and want your friends...

do what makes you happy.

I had a similar situation where my bp was already bigger than I wanted and i had to decide to include or not include family members (cousins who moved away and are also sisters) For me, It was most important that my family be included. I didnt want family drama and i like that all of my cousins will be included in the bridal party.

But, do what makes you happy. Its your wedding.

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

i think you pretty much answered your own question! def go with the friends BP is meant for those cloest to you, not people who you feel obligated to include

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definitely agree about the closeness, but I feel pretty strongly about including family even if we arent as close as we were.

My feeling is you should invite the people who are close to you. Who would want to be a part of the planning and are excited for you both. It sounds like your friends are a lot closer and it would probably mean more to you if they were apart of it. Is there a reason why you think your family would be upset if you didn't include your cousins in your BP? I don't think it's expected of you.
Good luck!!!

I think one of the reasons why I may be feeling guilty if I don't include them is bc my brother and sister in law did have them in their BP 2 years ago and I don't know if they expect that I will be including them also....does that make sense??

You girls are great though, thanks for your advice