BM Dilemma

aef3333 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:13 PM

BM Dilemma

Hey everyone, so a month ago I had to cut one of the girls out of my BP, and life for that matter lol. She started dating my ex boyfriend of 6 years and thought that I would be okay with this. But it is completely uncomfortable and awkward- so I pretty much stopped talking to her.
I would like to ask another one of my friends to be in the BP but IDK how to ask her without her feeling like a last resort. Anyone have any good ideas? She also knows the situation and that I no longer am having my other friend in the BP.

TIA

Jill52787 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:29 PM

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Thats a tough one. You def made the right decision though. Does everyone already know whos in your bp? I would just tell her that you really appreciate her friendship, and you would love her in your bp. Tell her you understand if she doesn't.

aef3333 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:47 PM

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Yes everyone already knows who the other BM's are because I asked everyone 5 months ago. It's such a weird situation ugh. Thanks for the advice.

StephanieJoy Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:57 PM

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Posted by Jill52787

Thats a tough one. You def made the right decision though. Does everyone already know whos in your bp? I would just tell her that you really appreciate her friendship, and you would love her in your bp. Tell her you understand if she doesn't.[/QUOTE

agree

Watermelon5 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 07:05 PM

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Ugh, sorry for the drama :( I totally understand that you don't want her to feel like a fill in, but I think she'll understand given the circs. Maybe just talk with her alone and say something like, 'You are a really special person to me and I def regret not including you the 1st time around because time has definitely proven who is truly by my side and there for me. I understand if you aren't up for it but I would be honored if you would be my BM.' Everyone knows that you can't have EVERY friend be a BM so I'm sure she wont feel like a last resort! HTH! and good luck!!!!!

AlexandMike2012 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 08:33 PM

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I think if she's one of your close friends she'll realize the situation and understand why you're asking her now, just be honest with her.

PeaceLoveWedding Posted: Mar 28, 2011 08:48 PM

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Posted by AlexandMike2012

I think if she's one of your close friends she'll realize the situation and understand why you're asking her now, just be honest with her.

I agree! She'll understand and if she knows having her as a BM means something to you and she isn't just a 'fill in', she'll be more than happy to do it

DonnaMarie7 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 08:49 PM

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Posted by AlexandMike2012

I think if she's one of your close friends she'll realize the situation and understand why you're asking her now, just be honest with her.

ITA!!!