Ok so I asked my girls at my eparty last week....all but one. I had emailed my friend all the party info when asking for her new address in RI, she emailed me back so I know she got it. I sent her out an invite and she didn't rsvp, I thought ok she did mention that she may not know if she could come until last minute so I didn't think anything of it.....well she didn't come to the party and I still haven't heard from her!!! Would you still ask her to be a BM because I'm thinking NO! Its upsetting because we have been friends since HS and I'm really disappointed. What would you girls do?
LnF0405
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Before getting upset you need to find out what happen.... maybe something came up or something different happen, talk to her and from there you can continue with your decision.
ellyoxox
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i would talk to her first. it was rude of her to not rsvp either way, but if she had a good reason for not being there and you still think you can count on her to be a bm then ask her. but if you don't think she's going to be reliable, then i wouldn't ask her.
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call her up...see what happened..you never know something might have came up that she got caught up in.
If she doesnt answer when you call her, leave her a VM give it another day or so, then dont bother. I think if someone is supposed to be your BM its a position of honor that youre one of the brides closest friends. And a close friend that may not be able to be there for you in person, should at least be there either over the phone or by email. Just my opinion. I get hurt over things like that...give it a few days. But definately call her.
nicopico13
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all really good advice, thank you!!
nicopico13
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Ok I just sent her an email, very simple just asking if everything was ok and that we missed her at the party. Short and sweet, lets see what she writes back.........
dazies1011
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I would call her first and see what she has to say baout not coming first and go from there.
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Ok I just sent her an email, very simple just asking if everything was ok and that we missed her at the party. Short and sweet, lets see what she writes back.........
That was a good way to start the conversation with her. You never know what happened...... Hopefully she gets back to you and explains everything Good luck!
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I would find out what happened first before you over react...but I would make sure she is going to be available and there when you need her before you ask her to be a BM
lookitscassie
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you definatly did the right thing
Summertimegal424
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i would def wait to see if shes okay? maybe something happen to her and she wasn't able to contact you, maybe she moved ...who knows give her another shot and let her give you a reason first b4 u get mad and dont let her be apart of ur day
nicopico13
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Thanks girls, I definitely tend to jump the gun a little and I think I needed to hear your responses to calm me down. She didn't write back yet...
