BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

EJSD2006 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:05 PM

BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

Ok so I asked an old co-worker to be in my BP and then soon afterwards I quit my job. Since then, we aren't close at all, in fact we've only spoken maybe 5 times since January! Anyhoo, she moved out of state a few months back and it dawned on me a while ago that I don't even like this person so why am I having her in my BP. (we used to be very close but since I got engaged she's been very rude and distant with me). I dont want to look at her face everytime I look at my wedding album. So I sent her an email about a month ago letting her know that I completely understand if she doesn't want to be in my BP anymore b/c I know how busy she is with her new job, her new apt, and planning her own wedding (she got engaged about 2 months ago). I only emailed her b/c everytime i call her she sounds like she doesn't want to talk to me and makes excuses to get off the phone. Also, I don't want any drama over the next 6 months b/c she won't be around for my bridal shower or bachelorette party and I didn't want to be disappointed. To make a long story short (too late) she left me a really snotty message yesterday telling me to call her so we can talk. 4 weeks later!!! Do I call her??? What do I say!? I'm so pissed off at her and I know if we talk I will just blow up! Help me!!!

beautyq115 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:07 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

Call her and lay it all out there! You are a busy girl too...and you know that you don't want her in your wedding!

xcalystax Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:10 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

I would give her a call and listen to what she wants to say, after all she is asking you to call her....

shellnroc Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:10 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

I agree with Kathleen!!

Call her just to get it done with. That way it won't be on your mind.

seta Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:12 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

you have to call her and be honest..it will be akward but is very necessary!!!!

beautyq115 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:14 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

Posted by seta

you have to call her and be honest..it will be akward but is very necessary!!!!

VERY TRUE!

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:15 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

call.

Laura&Phil Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:17 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

Posted by seta

you have to call her and be honest..it will be akward but is very necessary!!!!

I second this- I understand your e-mail tho...you have to call her to get this over with. I'm sorry that this is happening tho!

EJSD2006 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 10:49 PM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

ok so i called her and got her vm so i left her a very casual message to call me when she got a minute so that we could talk. my money says she doesn't call me back for like a week. for some reason, she always makes it seem like she's sooooo busy.

ssdbk Posted: Dec 29, 2005 01:53 AM

Re: BM drama...what do I do??? (a bit long - sorry)

Call her. You already mentioned that you don't want drama, so I can only guess that you know she is a drama queen. If so, that's what she's going to do in response to your e-mail. She'll be a drama queen. So, let it be the last time that her drama affects your wedding. And I am all for not having to look at someone in your wedding pictures if you don't like them.