Try not to worry about it...You will be beautiful and nobody is looking at anybody but you! Good luck!
Bellez95
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personally I think some brides are crazy Im not saying you are becuase she seems to be in a sticky situation I think if she needs to back out for money reasons then you should support her. I have heard of girls getting so mad when a BM gets pregnant why cant some girls be happy for their friends. If one of my girls got pregnant I would celebrate with her. Some girls have crazy rules please dont tell people they cant have a kid so they look good in pictures... not saying you are like this so please dont take this to mean I am talking to you I am just speaking of other girls I know of and it just irritates me
ksl268
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IMO if she is a good friend of your's you should want her to participate not matter what. I was in a wedding a few years ago where 4 out of 7 BM's were pregnant (one with twins/due 2 weeks after the wedding). These BM's meant a lot to the bride and it was important to have them there.
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Posted by Aug07OFCbride
Concern for her not feeling well I totally understand but worrying how your pictures will come out because of her, that I don't understand and I think it can be extremely hurtful. I mean she's pregnant, what a blessing and something to celebrate. What is more important- the close relationships, what people mean to each other, having them share in such a special day....or how the people you love look in your wedding pictures. Does it really matter? I dunno. Just don't get that. Sorry.
I agree sorry. I mean if she says it herself that she is worried about how she will feel and SHE will prefer to step down then that is fine. Otherwise to be concerned about pictures then i think that is wrong, i mean what about BM's who are a little bit larger, there are many in bp's and pictures come out fine. Its more important the relationship you have with somebody and wanting them to be an important part of your special day and that is what should count most. Ive seen pregnant bm's before and they looked great and nobody was like 'OH NO shes pregnant, look how she looks' And to have a friend say to you to step down bc you will ruin their pictures is harsh so imagine how she might feel. Your wedding day and pictures will be beautiful no matter what, how your pics come out will not be determined on one person
PegaLega
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I dont think the OP meant that she wanted the BM to step down b/c she was preggo. I think she was saying that she is worried about pictures in the sense of her standing on her feet and walking around at that point especially since she is already having a problem with her pregnancy as it is->I am hoping this is the case.
Otherwise, if she wants to be in and thinks that she can handle it then no biggie-if she thinks she may have problem handling the excitement for that day then let her choose to be the one to step down.
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Posted by wundmoretime
I just found out my MOH, twin sister, is also pregnant. After six years of trying unsuccessfully, invitro worked. It is very new pregnancy and we are all concerned about the outcome. She has had problems in the past. She is due one month after my wedding. I just found out yesterday that she may actually be having more than one child! I am leaving it up to her to decide. There are some really nice maternity lines. Maybe as a baby shower gift you could pay for her BM dress and/or the gift you would have gotten her. If you really want her in it and she can handle it, then the pregnancy shouldn't change your original decision.
Posted by Aug07OFCbride
Concern for her not feeling well I totally understand but worrying how your pictures will come out because of her, that I don't understand and I think it can be extremely hurtful. I mean she's pregnant, what a blessing and something to celebrate. What is more important- the close relationships, what people mean to each other, having them share in such a special day....or how the people you love look in your wedding pictures. Does it really matter? I dunno. Just don't get that. Sorry.
i agree with this... let her decide. i dont mean this in any mean way, just being honest, but yes - it is entirely selfish to say u want her out because ur worried about how ur pictures are going to look lol.. especially that u mentioned she is a good friend of urs. she'll look beautiful regardless if she's got a preggo belly or not. Now if she's really not feeling well, or worried for some reason then that's entirely different. I'd talk to her & tell her to please not feel entirely obligated & that u'd 100% understand if she felt the need to pull because of her situation, but that u would still like her to be a part of ur day(because part of her may also feel guilty pulling out),...but definetly do it in a way that's not going to make her feel like u dont want her in the party just because she's pregnant and that ur trying to persuade her out. u dont want hurt feelings...and yes, this can be very hurtful. hope this helps
Future Mulligan
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i think pregnant women are beautiful and sexy - i wouldnt mind having a pregnant BM at all....i would just be upset that my girl can't party it up on the dancefloor and drink with us
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Posted by Future Mulligan
i think pregnant women are beautiful and sexy - i wouldnt mind having a pregnant BM at all....i would just be upset that my girl can't party it up on the dancefloor and drink with us
