BM problem -I need help!
I'll keep this simple, if possible. I have 5 best girl friends so I choose to do my bridal party all family, to not insult my friends. I though that would keep things simple but nope.
My only sister is my MOH. Easy enough!
My FH has 2 sisters. One is 28, We hang out with her offten. His other sister is 39, has four young boys and lives in Rockland. We don't see her offten but her husband is the jewler who hooked-up FH with my E-ring. They are always generous with us.
FH asked his 28Y/O sister's boyfriend to be a groomsman. So I asked his 28 year old sister to be bridesmaid, as I belived this is the right thing to do.
FH's neices live with him and I spend nearly every day with them. They will be 16 &13 at my wedding. I asked them to be my bridesmaids as well. This gave me four bridesmaids, easy. I thought I was done.
This weekened we visited his older sister. She said to me 'I hope my sister and I will be bridesmaids!' I was thinking what? You want to be my bridesmaid? your older and I never even though to ask you. I even said 'You would want to be my bridesmaid? I didn't think you would' Of course now I have to ask her, it's the right thing to do. I feel weird about it though. Fh is not asking her husband, the jewler.
It presents a new issue also. My brother is married to his jr. highschool sweetheart. I have know her since I was like 7. FH and I are very close to them but they are 35 and have two tiny girls (my flower girls) and my sister-in-law expressed to me she felt she's too old to be a bridesmaid and she didn't expect me to ask her (she's actually 5 yrs younger then my FSIL who feels she needs to be a BM). I was not in her wedding party 10yrs ago.
If im going to have FH's older sister in my party then I certinly must ask my sister in law whom I actually am very close too (im not even close to his older sister). I just feel so uncomfortable with the whole thing. FH does not understand really. He's like 'just ask them all, no big deal'
Does this mean that my FH should put my brother in his birdal party since im focred to ask his sister now? I wouldn't expect him to do that even though it's the same situation. Also FH's older sister's husband is NOT a groomsman, does this mean he needs to be now? Ugh this is so horrbile.
My only sister is my MOH. Easy enough!
My FH has 2 sisters. One is 28, We hang out with her offten. His other sister is 39, has four young boys and lives in Rockland. We don't see her offten but her husband is the jewler who hooked-up FH with my E-ring. They are always generous with us.
FH asked his 28Y/O sister's boyfriend to be a groomsman. So I asked his 28 year old sister to be bridesmaid, as I belived this is the right thing to do.
FH's neices live with him and I spend nearly every day with them. They will be 16 &13 at my wedding. I asked them to be my bridesmaids as well. This gave me four bridesmaids, easy. I thought I was done.
This weekened we visited his older sister. She said to me 'I hope my sister and I will be bridesmaids!' I was thinking what? You want to be my bridesmaid? your older and I never even though to ask you. I even said 'You would want to be my bridesmaid? I didn't think you would' Of course now I have to ask her, it's the right thing to do. I feel weird about it though. Fh is not asking her husband, the jewler.
It presents a new issue also. My brother is married to his jr. highschool sweetheart. I have know her since I was like 7. FH and I are very close to them but they are 35 and have two tiny girls (my flower girls) and my sister-in-law expressed to me she felt she's too old to be a bridesmaid and she didn't expect me to ask her (she's actually 5 yrs younger then my FSIL who feels she needs to be a BM). I was not in her wedding party 10yrs ago.
If im going to have FH's older sister in my party then I certinly must ask my sister in law whom I actually am very close too (im not even close to his older sister). I just feel so uncomfortable with the whole thing. FH does not understand really. He's like 'just ask them all, no big deal'
Does this mean that my FH should put my brother in his birdal party since im focred to ask his sister now? I wouldn't expect him to do that even though it's the same situation. Also FH's older sister's husband is NOT a groomsman, does this mean he needs to be now? Ugh this is so horrbile.
