if someone asked you to be in their wedding, do you feel obligated to ask them to be in yours?
wedding_girl
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Depends. I don't think you should feel obligated. If you are very close i would say yes
FutureMrsLots
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We were close in college, she got married 2 years ago and lives in Florida. i was actually surprised that she asked me to be in her wedding.
Moonmist09
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just because i was in your wedding i don't feel obligated to have them in mine.
my FH was in all of his cousins' wedding parties. However, none of them, with the exception of one, will be in mine.
FutureJOC
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you should never feel obligated to ask someone to be in your BP for that reason. I have been in 7 BPs and the only person in my BP that I was also a BM in her wedding is my MOH/BFF.
WeezyGirl2354
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I actually kinda do - lol - not saying that it's right to feel that way but I do.
I've been in 3 weddings and all of them are in my BP - but only 1 i actually felt obligated to have. I am happy she agreed and will be part of the day, so dont get my wrong.
But i felt a little bit of 'well she had me i have to ask her' when i was thinking of the BP.
allornil
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I say no but I'd probably talk to them about it anyway. Just sorta clear the air. I know I was in your BP but I can only have so and so # of people and you live in FL etc. I hope you understand. yada yada yada.
BellaFiore
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No. I have a big family and have been in about 15 weddings, there's no way all those ladies can be in my bridal party. A few girls assumed they would be though, and I had to actually tell them that I was keeping the bridal party small.
TheFutureMrs2011
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I would if they asked me before I picked my bridal party... If they ask now, I wouldn't adjust my bridal party to include them unless I really really wanted to
angelabarra12
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ahh its hard....id feel silly if they asked me after i did mine..but its true if you did yours already i wouldnt adjust them to be in yours. but if you didnt i would talk to the person and let them know you dont want a large party or only having certain family or in a way you know will not upset them as best you can.
