BM Question - Kinda long
Sooo what do you girls think??
I asked my BM a few months back if they wanted to be in the bridal party and all happily accepted. Then one of my BM's (who is in her early 40s) found out she was pregnant and told me she prob would step down (which i totally understood since it would be a lot for her). Fast forward and she unfortunately had a miscarriage so I wasn't really sure what she wanted to do and I didn't say anything b/c OBVIOUSLY it was like, the LAST thing on her mind. NOW, it has been several months and I feel as if I need to know what she wants to do b/c if I have to ask someone else I feel like I can't do it much later than, say, 10 months, b/c it becomes obvious that they are choice B and also doesn't give them much time to save, etc. (all of my friends are in their mid-20s like me AKA broke usually LOL!). Soooo I mentioned it the other day and she said Oh, well we are trying again so idk can I let you know??? I dont mind waiting a little more but I feel like once Sep hits I want an answer!!! How do I go about being like LET ME KNOW w/o seeming completely insensitive to her feelings??? (fyi - i could care less if she was preggers in the party but she doesnt want to do that she said).
As always, thanks ladies!![]()
I asked my BM a few months back if they wanted to be in the bridal party and all happily accepted. Then one of my BM's (who is in her early 40s) found out she was pregnant and told me she prob would step down (which i totally understood since it would be a lot for her). Fast forward and she unfortunately had a miscarriage so I wasn't really sure what she wanted to do and I didn't say anything b/c OBVIOUSLY it was like, the LAST thing on her mind. NOW, it has been several months and I feel as if I need to know what she wants to do b/c if I have to ask someone else I feel like I can't do it much later than, say, 10 months, b/c it becomes obvious that they are choice B and also doesn't give them much time to save, etc. (all of my friends are in their mid-20s like me AKA broke usually LOL!). Soooo I mentioned it the other day and she said Oh, well we are trying again so idk can I let you know??? I dont mind waiting a little more but I feel like once Sep hits I want an answer!!! How do I go about being like LET ME KNOW w/o seeming completely insensitive to her feelings??? (fyi - i could care less if she was preggers in the party but she doesnt want to do that she said).
As always, thanks ladies!
