bm ? (sorry its long!)
okay so this might end up being a little long. Sorry!!!!!
so im an only child...and will not be asking fh's sister because she is a lot older and will just make things disasterous. im not asking my cousins because if i ask 1 i really should ask another 5 (so i dont want to cause drama in the family). i am def asking 1 close friend from home cuz we've been friends for forever...then i have my 4 college friends
1 - ive known right before college, we lived together and are close and she's engaged and into weddings
2 - we met at college, lived together, pledged together and WERE super close but since she's moved to nyc she's gone through like a total personality change and now she's all moapy cuz she's the only single one and we only hang out every once in a while (we used to be inseperable) and at college i was like omg she will be in my wedding and be my moh. also she might complain about spending $ cuz she's all about drinking now, but i think she thinks that i will ask her because we were so much closer than everyone else.
3 - we met at college and she was in my sorority, we hung out but now we're super close and pretty much inseperable so she will be my moh.
4 - is also an only child and we said we would be in each other's weddings, we lived together but we drifted apart our last yr but i know if i ask her she will really appreciate it since she misses all of our friendships.
so here's my problem...asking #1 is fine, asking #3 will be okay. asking #2 will cause drama for 1 and 3 because she will complain about $ to them and just say things. and FINALLY i would ask #4 because she will really appreciate the offer (im pretty sure she would accept) but if i ask 4 and not 3, 3 will flip and be mad at us all.
so ill either have 3 bms (but i really want 4), 4 or have 5 (and just make them deal with #2). I kind of feel bad though because i dont want my bms to have drama and issues but i want #2 to be included. and ive thought about giving her another role but i think she will just get offended.
any advice would be great! TIA
so im an only child...and will not be asking fh's sister because she is a lot older and will just make things disasterous. im not asking my cousins because if i ask 1 i really should ask another 5 (so i dont want to cause drama in the family). i am def asking 1 close friend from home cuz we've been friends for forever...then i have my 4 college friends
1 - ive known right before college, we lived together and are close and she's engaged and into weddings
2 - we met at college, lived together, pledged together and WERE super close but since she's moved to nyc she's gone through like a total personality change and now she's all moapy cuz she's the only single one and we only hang out every once in a while (we used to be inseperable) and at college i was like omg she will be in my wedding and be my moh. also she might complain about spending $ cuz she's all about drinking now, but i think she thinks that i will ask her because we were so much closer than everyone else.
3 - we met at college and she was in my sorority, we hung out but now we're super close and pretty much inseperable so she will be my moh.
4 - is also an only child and we said we would be in each other's weddings, we lived together but we drifted apart our last yr but i know if i ask her she will really appreciate it since she misses all of our friendships.
so here's my problem...asking #1 is fine, asking #3 will be okay. asking #2 will cause drama for 1 and 3 because she will complain about $ to them and just say things. and FINALLY i would ask #4 because she will really appreciate the offer (im pretty sure she would accept) but if i ask 4 and not 3, 3 will flip and be mad at us all.
so ill either have 3 bms (but i really want 4), 4 or have 5 (and just make them deal with #2). I kind of feel bad though because i dont want my bms to have drama and issues but i want #2 to be included. and ive thought about giving her another role but i think she will just get offended.
any advice would be great! TIA
