BM VENT!

I just found out that one of my BMs (FH cousin) just decided at the last minute that she wont have her half of the money for my shower (170.00). She emailed everyone and said she had 'other weddings and parties' right now and its not a good time for her. Excuse me??You have 'other parties'?????? Now I understand if you dont have it you dont have. I have been there plenty of times myself but she has known about the shower for over a year and is constantly going out partying with her friends she has money for that? I just think its rude to think everyone else will pick her slack. This is a 29 year old girl its not even like you could say well shes young she doesnt know any better! Should I say something to her? I dont think I will but its just not right!!!!

OMG!!!

That sounds horrible. But why are you collecting the money shouldn't your MOH be handling all of that? Well I would suggest you talk to her. If she is your friend then she should understand your frustrations. You did ask her to be in your wedding and when she accepted she should have known all of the financial responsibilities associated with it. I'm sorry to hear about this and i hope you don't have to pick up the rest of the slack

IMO, this is something for the rest of your BP to handle. She's stiffing them directly, and I just think that it would get REALLY ugly if you got involved. Maybe have FH's mother say something to her or someone else in the BP like the MOH. That's not right, but when it comes down to it, there's nothing you can really do. Just know to get the rest of the BP GREAT GIFTS at the rehearsal dinner, and maybe something stingy for her! I'm evil, sorry! But yeah, I would leave it to those who are paying for the shower to deal with it. I'm surprised that you know anything of it anyway. Good Luck.

I'm kinds wondering why someone told you. You shouldn't be stressed about people planning your shower and whatever is going on with that. That's something your BM's should keep from you at least until after the shower.
But as far as saying something to her, I'm not sure what can be said. If these are her priorities, that says something about who she is and now you know for future reference.
You're right about it not being fair for the other girls to pick up the slack, is there any other family that can help? Mom, close Aunt?
She sounds kinda self-absorbed. I'm sorry, that s*cks.

i think you have to let the BM's/MOH handle it.. theyre the ones planning the shower..
for my wedding my MOH is paying for the whole shower herself so there is no confusion

Here's a hug for ya ! Let everyone else deal with the stress on this one. Don't waste the negative energy on it!

I agree..its not your worry!! Let your bridal party handle it!! that ****s though..to think your friend would do that!

It's not your problem Let the BP worry about it. You have enough on your plate!!

Jenn,

I feel so bad that you are in the middle of this. I hope that you didn't find this info out from you know who. I wouldn't say anything to your FH's cousin. Let the BP or your FH handle it. You are right though it isn't right and she should have spent her money more wisely. Good luck!

Joanna!
I am addicted to this! I think they might fire me! NO I didnt find out from you know who! It was someone else! Terrible right? Oh well!

No don't worry they won't fire you. Glad you are having fun. Sorry again about the BM. Your day is getting closer!!!!