BM VENT!! AAAHHH

I am so annoyed at one of my BMs!!!
I have made an appt for the BMs with Lillettes. With plenty of time in advance to check their schedules. Well one of them tells me she can’t go because she has her start up business stuff to do. I do understand. But she can’t use ONE of her Saturdays to come with me so she can try on dresses within the next 2 months!
She is now tighter on cash than all my other BMs. And she told me a while ago that she doesn’t want to spend so much money on a dress that she will only be able to wear once blah, blah, blah… Well now she isn’t getting a choice on the dress and she won’t have a say if it’s too expensive or not! I honestly don’t care either. I am trying to accommodate her but she won’t. If she decides she no longer wants to be in the wedding b/c the dress is to expensive fine by me. She has been the only BM to annoy me since the beginning.
I can only imagine how she will be when it comes time to plan for the shower. My mom and my best friend will not tolerate this crap.
Am I being selfish here? Am I wrong??

I think every bridal party has that one pain in the a**!!! Just be straight up and tell her how you feel! If it's not the dress, it'll be something else! I'd give her the boot!

Good luck!

I dont think you are being selfish at all. It sounds like you are trying to be accomodating actually.

It sounds a little like she may not want to be in the BP anymore. I would ask her now if she still wants to be in the BP. You could do it nicely by mentioning that her new business is going to take up a lot of time and money which it deserves and that you would not want your wedding to be a burden.

This BM told you that she was tight on cash.
If she isn't able to spend the money on the dress then she should back out. I would tell her how much it is and ask her honestly if she still wants to be in it. She may really want to be in your bridal party but may be having a tough time with the
expense.

What irritates me even more is that she has the opportunity to do her business stuff on Sunday too. She could switch her working day one weekend to a Sunday. But no she won’t do it at all! I had a talk with her a long time ago about her being in the BP. It all worked out, or so I thought!

FH the mediator, tells me to let her figure it out. If she can’t afford the dress she will say so and then I can give her the boot! I have the pleasure of seeing her tomorrow for lunch! YAY for me!

A talk is definetely in order.

You are being more than accomodating and flexible- she is NOT.

Have a conversation with her tomorrow and see where her head is at.

K I wish I could but another one of our friend's is meeting us for lunch too. I many not go because of this. She really has pi$$ed me off!

I don't think you're being selfish either. I think you're doing the right thing. You can't wait around for everyone. Just pick a dress, if she doesn't like it, too bad.