BM/FSIL Vent
So my FSIL is one of my bridesmaids and her daughter is a flower girl. About a year ago we were really good friends. Then some stuff happened and well we are really not that close anymore. There was a point about 8 months ago where she wasn't sure her and her daughter were even going to come to the wedding. But then they decided that they are. Whatever. So now that I am one week away from my wedding, she decides to be a pain in the neck again.
I have 2 more BMs that GMs so 2 of my BMs will be walking alone. So she texts me one day and is like 'what are you doing bc you have 2 extra BMs?' I said, 'well i have two walking alone.' So she responds, 'why don't you have 2 girls with one guy?' and i said 'because that's not the way i want it.' So then she says 'who is walking alone?' and i tell her who the two girls are (one is not her). Then she says 'well why did you chose them?' and I said 'because that's who i chose.' Then she stops writing. Why do I have to justify my decisions about MY wedding. So then the next day I am at FMIL's house (without FH) and she says to me 'I think that family should walk at the end. I think my daughters should be the ones to walk alone because they are family.' And I said 'ok. but i already chose the two people i want to walk alone.' And then she says 'well you can still change it.' and i replied 'but i don't want to.' UGH!
So the drama continues. A few days later, FMIL calls FH to talk to him about his sister. Basically, FSIL is uncomfortable walking down the aisle with another man now that she is married. Is she serious?!?!?! Like, is she kidding me?!?!?!?! I have 6 BMs that are married and she is the only one having this problem. I mean, give me a break! You are walking down the aisle for 15 seconds. So FMIL is trying to convince FH that he needs to discuss this with me so that I will change it. So FH says 'these are not my BMs, I am not going to convince Jackie of anything, and if you have this problem you need to discuss it with her.' Well, she tried and it didnt work which is why she was calling him. So freakin annoying!
So this last wednesday. So I thought it was over because i haven't heard anything lately. So now that 150 church programs are printed, with the girls written in order that they are coming down the aisle, FMIL calls FH last night to discuss the situation again with him. I cannot believe this. He is like 'programs are printed. its done' and she says 'we can always reprint programs.' Oh hell no! I am not reprinting 150 programs. I ordered this paper online and printed them off my own printer! And since it is doubled sided i had to put all of them through twice. She is out of her mind if she thinks i am changing anything and reprinting programs. So FH tells her 'listen, you keep talking about this but she (his sister) has yet to call me and talk to me about this situation. if she is so concerned, she should call me herself. i am not discussing this with you any more. stay out of it.' So i think that ended it for now. But UGH.
Sorry this is so long. I really just needed to get it out! Am I being crazy? Like why should i have to change things? This is MY wedding. I didn't say boo her wedding. I did whatever she wanted. Plus I feel like if I give in to her now, i'm setting myself up on the wrong path. I need to stand up now and let her know she is not going to push me around.
I have 2 more BMs that GMs so 2 of my BMs will be walking alone. So she texts me one day and is like 'what are you doing bc you have 2 extra BMs?' I said, 'well i have two walking alone.' So she responds, 'why don't you have 2 girls with one guy?' and i said 'because that's not the way i want it.' So then she says 'who is walking alone?' and i tell her who the two girls are (one is not her). Then she says 'well why did you chose them?' and I said 'because that's who i chose.' Then she stops writing. Why do I have to justify my decisions about MY wedding. So then the next day I am at FMIL's house (without FH) and she says to me 'I think that family should walk at the end. I think my daughters should be the ones to walk alone because they are family.' And I said 'ok. but i already chose the two people i want to walk alone.' And then she says 'well you can still change it.' and i replied 'but i don't want to.' UGH!
So the drama continues. A few days later, FMIL calls FH to talk to him about his sister. Basically, FSIL is uncomfortable walking down the aisle with another man now that she is married. Is she serious?!?!?! Like, is she kidding me?!?!?!?! I have 6 BMs that are married and she is the only one having this problem. I mean, give me a break! You are walking down the aisle for 15 seconds. So FMIL is trying to convince FH that he needs to discuss this with me so that I will change it. So FH says 'these are not my BMs, I am not going to convince Jackie of anything, and if you have this problem you need to discuss it with her.' Well, she tried and it didnt work which is why she was calling him. So freakin annoying!
So this last wednesday. So I thought it was over because i haven't heard anything lately. So now that 150 church programs are printed, with the girls written in order that they are coming down the aisle, FMIL calls FH last night to discuss the situation again with him. I cannot believe this. He is like 'programs are printed. its done' and she says 'we can always reprint programs.' Oh hell no! I am not reprinting 150 programs. I ordered this paper online and printed them off my own printer! And since it is doubled sided i had to put all of them through twice. She is out of her mind if she thinks i am changing anything and reprinting programs. So FH tells her 'listen, you keep talking about this but she (his sister) has yet to call me and talk to me about this situation. if she is so concerned, she should call me herself. i am not discussing this with you any more. stay out of it.' So i think that ended it for now. But UGH.
Sorry this is so long. I really just needed to get it out! Am I being crazy? Like why should i have to change things? This is MY wedding. I didn't say boo her wedding. I did whatever she wanted. Plus I feel like if I give in to her now, i'm setting myself up on the wrong path. I need to stand up now and let her know she is not going to push me around.
