BM's relationship crisis.....

OK... readers digest version.. They have been seeing each other for almost 5 years, engaged for about 2.5-3 yrs.. I recently had my envelope stuffing party, and she totally blew me off... told me she wouldnt be too happy to be there, and would make everyone miserable.
I ask why, she tells me that they decided to 'take a break'. I think its a completely messed up situation... He thinks he will hurt her in the future (his dad was verbally abusive and f'ed up his moms head)... and would rather hurt her now than in the future... And instead of understanding and trying to work things out, she tells me shes pawning in her GORGEOUS Zales ring and making another piece of jewelry out of it. She tells me she thinks its for good this time, and that if they ever decide to get back together, it (a) wont be for awhile and (b) will need to buy her another ring!!!!! I feel sooo bad for her, but almost feel guilty for being sooo excited over my wedding... I want her to be happy, but she cant seem to get out of this funk.. (shes my FI's cousin)... HELP WHAT CAN I DO?!?!?!?!?!

I think you just need to be supportive and tell her how important it is for her to share in your day (you can't relive this memory again).

I would also tell her while it hurts now and feels like the end of the world, to wait on making hasty decisions about the ring. Unless she too honestly wants it to be over as well. Tell her to take it day by day and see what happends, but in the mean time move on and live her life.

Good luck!