Booking & making deposit tomorrow

I'm really excited to finally be booking. I'm just happy they are holding my date for me up to tomorrow.

Maybe I'm just nervous cause it's a lot of money I'm comitting to giving them in the next few months and I fear I'm alone on the payment plan here.

FH doesn't have the money to help with the deposits right now. He's trying to save for a car. He's offered to help but any help he gives me prolongs him getting a car. And he needs one cause I'm tied of being the only one with the car and getting to see eachother completely relies on me unless he takes public transportation (which I feel I can't allow).

I haven't even told my mom I'm the one putting the money down. I'm afraid of her reaction. She thinks we're doing this 50/50. FH told me he will put in the same amount I dish out for the both of us. But I'm paying for all these deposits by check from MY checking account, just so it is documented what I've paid for (in the event anything should happen).

I just can't afford to lose my date. And I know for a fact someone else is interested in my date at my hall. So I need to book now.

I just hope I'm not geting in over my head on this.

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Posted by RitasEngaged

Don't worry about it!! It will all work out!

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I'm sure it will. I'm just stressing right now over the money.
At least I'm being smart about it and documenting every dime I put in from now & until FH starts to help out.

FH and I are in a similar situation. He is finishing up his degree and is only working part-time... but, he worked full-time over the summer and saved a lot of money with that.

I only make a deposit when he is able to give me half the deposit. Otherwise, it waits... Luckily, it's worked out so far... and our next deposits aren't until 2009 (he graduates in May).

I also have receipts for EVERYthing, documenting who paid what.

BE EXCITED. It's all very exciting, and FH will help out when he can... and he'll be making deposits and you can sit back and relax...

This is an exciting thing!!! Dont stress it!!
It is a good thing to book now, and it is going to be really hard financially for a bit, but its worth it! Everything will work itself out in the end!!

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Posted by JoanneAndJustin

FH and I are in a similar situation. He is finishing up his degree and is only working part-time... but, he worked full-time over the summer and saved a lot of money with that.

I only make a deposit when he is able to give me half the deposit. Otherwise, it waits... Luckily, it's worked out so far... and our next deposits aren't until 2009 (he graduates in May).

I also have receipts for EVERYthing, documenting who paid what.

BE EXCITED. It's all very exciting, and FH will help out when he can... and he'll be making deposits and you can sit back and relax...

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I really hope so. It's just that I hate that almost every dollar I will make is going to these desposits. I still have my car loadn & student loan to pay off to.

I told FH that we will have to not go out anymore to eat, the movies, etc and he doesn't understand why. I told him unless you're paying for me I will having nothing to go out with. He thinks I'm making it sound worse that it's going to be.

But it's not easy when after taxes, medical, etc you make... oh lets say $475 a week. Car payment is $315 a month. The RH deposit is $1,000 tomororw, another $1,000 in 2 months.... I'm not sure what money he thinks I will have to bok a dj or photographer cause he's asking when we are booking that. Unless he's got it, it's going to have to wait.

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Posted by rocketsummer17

This is an exciting thing!!! Dont stress it!!
It is a good thing to book now, and it is going to be really hard financially for a bit, but its worth it! Everything will work itself out in the end!!

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I absolutely agree, be excited about finally booking!!!!! everything else will work out!!!!

the men dont really understand how much everything costs and the things that are required to book vendors...Does your FH know what goes into it all? Maybe he doesnt realize...
Have you two sat down and talked about budget before?

He's not even going to the booking with me tomorrow cause he can't get out of work early.

Maybe that's what making me feel alone on this.

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Posted by rocketsummer17

the men dont really understand how much everything costs and the things that are required to book vendors...Does your FH know what goes into it all? Maybe he doesnt realize...
Have you two sat down and talked about budget before?

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Yeah we have and we decided we can only spend $20-22k on this wedding tops.

Unfortunately his family hasn't offered to help with anything. We know why, it's cause his mother doesn't want him marrying me.

if it makes u feel better. FH hasnt even seen the RH lol. i went to look at it with my mom (cuz FH had to work) and i loved it so much that we put the deposit down the same day (granted it was only $500). so dont feel alone!
you know that he would be there if he could.

as far as the deposits for vendors go.....this is why we're getting married in 2010. so we can space out the deposits. the RH is the most important thing. photo and DJ will come later. dont worry about that for now.

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Posted by Opera_Ghost

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Posted by rocketsummer17

the men dont really understand how much everything costs and the things that are required to book vendors...Does your FH know what goes into it all? Maybe he doesnt realize...
Have you two sat down and talked about budget before?

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Yeah we have and we decided we can only spend $20-22k on this wedding tops.

Unfortunately his family hasn't offered to help with anything. We know why, it's cause his mother doesn't want him marrying me.

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WHYYYYY wouldnt anyone want you to marry their son?? crazy ol' woman she is.

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Posted by bkbaby4life

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Posted by Opera_Ghost

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Posted by rocketsummer17

the men dont really understand how much everything costs and the things that are required to book vendors...Does your FH know what goes into it all? Maybe he doesnt realize...
Have you two sat down and talked about budget before?

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Yeah we have and we decided we can only spend $20-22k on this wedding tops.

Unfortunately his family hasn't offered to help with anything. We know why, it's cause his mother doesn't want him marrying me.

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WHYYYYY wouldnt anyone want you to marry their son?? crazy ol' woman she is.

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Let's see.. besides the fact I am not Hispanic (which is a huge factor that bothers her), it's that she thinks that if he marries me he's passing on his chance to have children. She knows I don't like children and that I don't plan on having any. She even knows FH feels the same way but she feels that I had something to do with that.

She's also upset that her 3 grandchildren are not invited to the wedding cause their all under the age of 10. We BOTH (fh & i) decided no children at the wedding. 3 of my cousins won't be coming cause their under 12 as well. She thinks I'm doing this on purpose, blah blah blah.

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Posted by Opera_Ghost

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Posted by bkbaby4life

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Posted by Opera_Ghost

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Posted by rocketsummer17

the men dont really understand how much everything costs and the things that are required to book vendors...Does your FH know what goes into it all? Maybe he doesnt realize...
Have you two sat down and talked about budget before?

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Yeah we have and we decided we can only spend $20-22k on this wedding tops.

Unfortunately his family hasn't offered to help with anything. We know why, it's cause his mother doesn't want him marrying me.

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WHYYYYY wouldnt anyone want you to marry their son?? crazy ol' woman she is.

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Let's see.. besides the fact I am not Hispanic (which is a huge factor that bothers her), it's that she thinks that if he marries me he's passing on his chance to have children. She knows I don't like children and that I don't plan on having any. She even knows FH feels the same way but she feels that I had something to do with that.

She's also upset that her 3 grandchildren are not invited to the wedding cause their all under the age of 10. We BOTH (fh & i) decided no children at the wedding. 3 of my cousins won't be coming cause their under 12 as well. She thinks I'm doing this on purpose, blah blah blah.

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oh goodness. im sorry you have to deal with that. nothing can be easy right.
best of luck though. im sure everything will work its way out.

I hear ya!! IN january, we have to start giving our hall $1500 a month....
That's a friggin morgtage!!