BOUTONNIERES (with FH's opinion added) NOW WITH MORE OF FH's ANSWER

SoontobeMrs.Brown Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:13 PM

BOUTONNIERES (with FH's opinion added) NOW WITH MORE OF FH's ANSWER

Bryan hates them. Is it bad if they guys dont wear them? He said the choice is mine. I said personally I think they look nice but its really his decision ..

What do you girls think?

His response:

truly though, either way. i don't care. but if you ask me, i don't need it.

and if the purpose is to stand out, no thanks. i want to slip in and out of the shadows like a ninja so i can hear people talking about me.

MORE OF FH's REASON --

yeah i'm not really into flowers at all- definitely not on my person.

why not just throw one behind my ear? it's a bit too much FLAIR *jazz hands* for me

and when someone scans over the crowd at the wedding, i don't necessarily want to be sending out the bat signal to every drunken well-wisher that says, 'I AM THE GROOM, RIGHT HERE, PLEASE COME TELL ME THAT YOU LIKED THE WEDDING BUT YOU WOULD HAVE DONE A FEW THINGS DIFFERENTLY.'

hes the best

Soon2BNavi Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:14 PM

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personally I think they should wear them it also helps for them to stand out in the crowd

soontobecruz Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:16 PM

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our guys are not wearing them they are getting hankerchief's instead. FH hates them and IMO by the end of the night they are all crushed and falling off anyone from people hugging, dancing, etc. They will be the only men in tuxedos so I think they will still stand out.

Actually the only men who are wearing them are our Dad's bc I think they wanted too

AwaitingAugust Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:17 PM

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i think if he hates them, it's not a huge deal if he doesn't wear one ..... but i do like them, personally

brittndave Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:19 PM

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Posted by Soon2BNavi

personally I think they should wear them it also helps for them to stand out in the crowd

ita... what if they do really simple, small ones? these were ours and they weren't huge or extravagant or anything

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Gerbera Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:20 PM

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It depends. If they are wearing tuxes then yeah it should be pretty obvious they are the wedding party.
But if they are doing simple suits I think if you don't do bouts you should do something so that they stand out.

Try googling unconventional bouts. They don't have to be just the atypical roses.

Maybe if you present some fun alternatives?

SoontobeMrs.Brown Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:22 PM

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Posted by Gerbera

It depends. If they are wearing tuxes then yeah it should be pretty obvious they are the wedding party.
But if they are doing simple suits I think if you don't do bouts you should do something so that they stand out.

Try googling unconventional bouts. They don't have to be just the atypical roses.

Maybe if you present some fun alternatives?

They are wearing tuxes .. he just hates flowers .. which is why in the over 2 years we have been together .. I havent received even 1.

win01 Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:23 PM

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If he don't like them I would skip them...He could use a nice pocket square instead...I have seen that done.. It looks very elegant.

AngnShaun Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:25 PM

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i'd let him do whatever...

BUT i want you to ask him WHY he hates Bouts?

Gerbera Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:26 PM

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love your FI's response. So totally something my FI would say.

In that case I say get rid of it.

It's his wedding day too!

SoontobeMrs.Brown Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:28 PM

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Posted by AngnShaun

i'd let him do whatever...

BUT i want you to ask him WHY he hates Bouts?

coming shortly

Im_My_Own_Princess Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:30 PM

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there are so many other options you could do if he doesn't want to do flowers.
i agree that it does make the bridal party stand out. and while the BMs are in dresses that are obvious, sometimes the GM aren't as obvious and feel a little less... 'important'. (that might not be the right word, but its all i could think of)

are you guys following a theme or colors?

Becca2010 Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:31 PM

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I say they're not necessary and I love Shauna's handkerchief idea!

soontobecruz Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:36 PM

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Posted by Becca2010

I say they're not necessary and I love Shauna's handkerchief idea!

why thank you Becca! They looked really sharp with the guys Tux's and they were all happy with them

AngnShaun Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:37 PM

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Posted by soontobecruz

Posted by Becca2010

I say they're not necessary and I love Shauna's handkerchief idea!

why thank you Becca! They looked really sharp with the guys Tux's and they were all happy with them

awesome idea Shauna

BlackTieGuy Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:44 PM

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Posted by win01

If he don't like them I would skip them...He could use a nice pocket square instead...I have seen that done.. It looks very elegant.

Agreed. Here are a couple different pocket square looks:

SoontobeMrs.Brown Posted: Aug 03, 2010 02:47 PM

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Posted by BlackTieGuy

Posted by win01

If he don't like them I would skip them...He could use a nice pocket square instead...I have seen that done.. It looks very elegant.

Agreed. Here are a couple different pocket square looks:

HE JUST VETOED THE POCKET SQUARES ...