BP Drama

BP Drama

I never thought I would be effectied by the BP Drama... so far everything was just running sooo smoothly... I helped them to save money in every aspect possible...I'm paying half for their hair... I found the cheapest dresses possible...only $130 each...I found super cheap FG dresses...50 each.. I got them swarvorski necklaces etc etc...

Well my sis and friend...which are my 2 MOHS are planning my bridal shower...My friend called up FSIL to say if you would like to help contribute money for it, that would be nice, BUT if you CAN NOT, then that's fine as well. Then to please help decorate and all that instead.

So my FSIL decided to flip out that I'm doing everything too EXTRAVAGANT and spending too much money on my wedding. C'mon... 130 and 35 for the hair and dress is too much money? ***?!?!? I'm sorry I'm taking a year to plan my wedding...not 2 months. I'm sorry I'm cutting corners to save money for all my girls. I told them my bridal shower can be at someones house to save money... but my MOHS wanted a nicer place... AUGH! Just me!

My FSIL texted me that she can't be in my wedding...then told me to talk to my MOH... that's where I got the story from. My FFIL told me that he's going to takl to her and that I shouldn't worry.... but HONESTLY....how am I not to?? That means I am supposed to pay for her dress... and will she take the FGs out as well..? I already spend over 500 on the 3 of them! ***?!?!?!

I needed to vent..>I'm totally freaking out right now!! My MOHs didn't even want to tell me what was going on b/c it was about my shower..

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:( oh Dani! that *****! just take a deep breath..............

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AWWWWWWW Dani first heres a big hug for you Second anything that happens is out of your control you did everything to make the girls Happy and saved them TONS of money so dont even worry about it yes it will s@ck if she does decide not to be in it but that will be her decision and she will look like the big baby!! Good luck sweetie FM me if you need to talk.

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I am so sorry Dani. I seriously don't know what is wrong with some people. I hope everything works out for you sweety.

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I'm so sorry!!! If it was a money issue, she should have been up front from the beginning and declined, not wait until the last minute. That's not fair to you, or the rest of your girls. I hope everything works out once everyone has calmed down

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I know exactly how you feel, it's such a difficult situation to be in because as the bride, we shouldn't really know about our showers, but now it's like you're thrown right in the middle of it and you don't know what to do. Take a step back and a deep breath, it's not like you're asking THEM to spend $500, you're doing nothing but the right thing so don't second guess yourself, let people do what they want, and if someone doesn't want to be part of your day, as much as it hurts, think of it as not having negative energy surround you on your wedding day, some people are very petty and desperate for attention don't let it detract from your happiness, good luck Dani!!!

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keep your head up dani!!!!!!!!1 everything will work out!!! we are here for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! vent all u want

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BP drama is the last thing anyone needs.

I am sure one way or another things will work themselves out. All you can do it try to remain sane and realize that all the drama will be worth it once you exchange vows with the person you love! You will look back at this as a mere bump in the road!

cheer Up!!!!

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So sorry you are going through the crap! Hope everything gets better!

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Well, basically...i'm sooo hurt that I called FH and said, 'listen, if you don't get to the bottom of this, the wedding is totally post-poned...He's like why...'Well, b/c I'm not spending the rest of my life with this wench starting lies about me. Something needs to be put through HER head... I'd much rather just freak.in elope right now... say screw everyone. Meanwhile, the rest of my BP is doing soo much...it's unreal. I don't know what her problem is. And, what does HER mom have to do with my shower... the Mom's of the groom don't do the showers...RIIIGHT?

i told FH me and him will run away and elope...then we'll have a party...with only the good part of the BP... I'm done... this just isn't fair to me...

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And thanks soo much, girls. For helping me feel better.... I'm jsut a pile of emotion right now.. Sorry

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Thanks...I'm not really going to cancel..I know I'm over-reacting right now...but it's soo hurtful and I'm completely dumb-founded. My manager is telling me to leave and she'll tell everyone that I had to run to the other builiding for a computer issue...soo.>I just may take up that offer...I'm sooo done...

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I'm soo sorry! this stuff happens. Maybe FSIL is a little bit jealous. Sounds like she is overreacting. I don't thingk 130 for a dress and 35 for hair is a lot at all. I think you did a good job with trying to make everything less expensive for them. She knew there was going to be money involved when she signed up to be in the wedding... she said yes... so the way I see it she is completely in the wrong. Maybe she will cme around. Let FFIL talk to her about it. It's your decision to have as big of a wedding as you wish... that should not have anything to do with her.. who cares if you are or are not going overboard with your own planning and things.. none of that is her concern because it's not her wedding. Bridal showers are normal and MOST brides have them no matter how big their wedding is! So I don't get it. maybe she is having a bad day. If she doesn't want to be in it then so be it. Your day will be just as great without her standing up there with you. I think it's best to let her throw the temper tantrum, and make sure you remain solid and in control. Don't do or say anything that would put you in the wrong. Let her wine and ***** and complain all she wants because all she is doing is making herself look bad in the end.
it was even nice that the MOH's told her she doesn't have to contribute money if she can't. And they were right to ask her to help decorate because as a brideamaid that is one of the things you do. If I were in someone's wedding I would contribute anyway i could.. be it money for the shower or decorating... probably i would do both.
I sorry you are going through this.


hopefully she will come around and realize she is overreacting and being rude and mean.

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Sorry to hear that!

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thanks so much grils...work wants me to leave...with all the stress from my boss quitting, to being left on my own in a new positoin, to this crud happenening...
She made my FH tear!! Are you kidding me?? He never gets mushy like that... I'm soo mad at her right now it's not even funny. My MOH wasn't trying to do anything wrong... just say pay if you can..if you can't then you can't. Then FSIL went nutty.. and blah blah blah. When she said f*** you b*** and hung up on MOH that's when MOH called her back and told her off. Maybe it was wrong of MOH to do, but it was wrong FSIL to tell HER off in the first place. SUCH CHILD PLAY!! I just want it all done and over.

I mean, she was excited about everything. She said she couldn't wait to get the dresses... couldn't wait to buy the gloves and tiarras for her kids... she just went on and on about how excited she was to be in her baby brothers wedding.

My sis MOH is going to call both FSIL AND her mom...straighten this all out ... but I don't know if that will be a good idea right now. My sis MOH is mad b/c she saiid she wanted to have this all paid off already, but they are doing nothing but casuing drama...it's totally crazy. So, I'm sure much more other stuff must have been going on that my MOHs don't want me to stress about.

So this is what I'm going to have to deal with the rest of my life huh?

I KNOW that she is jealous! Her wedding was planned in 2 months b/c she was pregnent... She didnt have a HM...nothing...

OMG...when she found out we were going to Ireland she just stuck her nose up...she's like, should you go to a beach for your HM..? FH and I are like...we're going where we want...not where we 'should' go. But other then that she was sooo excitied about everything...so taht's what makes me sooo confused....soo hurt...

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Im sorry you have to deal with this Dani Ihope FSIL comes around and stops being a b itch!

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Sorry to hear about this. I mean, one thing I will say is that times are really tough for people in this economy- maybe she is suffering too? Even though you have been very very thoughtful and helped them save money, she could be impacted in some way... I would offer to talk to her and work with her somehow. Maybe she can just skip professional makeup or hair and just opt for the dress?

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that's awful, i'm sorry to hear this!
i have to be honest though... this is one of the reasons we decided no BP... i know i've said it a million times, but you can't please everyone, and often times it leads to resentment and anger... i hope it works out for you!