Sooo, I know that its really hard times right now for everyone as far as money is concerned. So thats why last night I got an overwhelming sense of guilt when I thought of my BP paying for their dresses. My brother(he's a gm) mentioned his GF (one of my BM's) is really broke, but I shouldn't have to worry b/c he's going to help pay for her dress (which is really Noble). But it made me start to feel HORRIBLE. I kept the cost below $250, but most places expect like more than half of a deposit.
Is anyone else feeling the guilt trip? I want to help out as much as possible, but I can only go so far... my budget doesn't have much room.
Also, does anyone know of anyways that I can cut the cost for the BP dresses? The dress is picked out already, just not ordered.
Kimbiz1
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I think Commack Bridal Super Center or something like that will 'copy' a dress. I would show them the dress and ask them if they could do any better on the price.
Good luck. Did you buy your mega millions tickets?
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No not yet! Sending FH today!
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when is the deposit due..and how much?
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I felt really guilty like you too, my dress was $240 but then two girls needed extra length, then tax, it came to almost $300! I felt horrible and told me girls this but they assured me they didn't mind spending the money.
I am going to try to pay for their hair and makeup to help with the cost.
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when is the deposit due..and how much?
End of August... and they have to put down $175.
stinenandy2010
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also don't forget, i think you mentioned the other day waiting till november to order your dresses....so ALOT can change in the next few months
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im not having my bp buy shoes, i am saving them money by letting them wear their silver shoes. I also bought their doj. So thats saves too
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i don't feel guilty cuz the dress i want the girls to get is on $168. so i didn't think it was alot of money.
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I felt really guilty like you too, my dress was $240 but then two girls needed extra length, then tax, it came to almost $300! I felt horrible and told me girls this but they assured me they didn't mind spending the money.
I am going to try to pay for their hair and makeup to help with the cost.
They said they didn't mind either, but I know the true circumstances. It bothers me.
I think I will pay for all their mani/pedis. Like have a mani/pedi party the day before the wedding, like a morning thing. I was thinking about doing this for them for a while. Serve Momosa's and bloody Mary's, little breakfast foods, get some mani/pedi's etc.
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tell them to set aside a dollar a day
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I feel guilty too i think about this all the time I am not going to start until the summer but when that time comes I am going to be freaking!! out i understand times are tough and I will try my best to keep my dresses at a lower cost!!! i think under 250 is a reasonable price!! good luck Sandra
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yeah i am def gonna keep the dresses to like around $150 if I can. I wont pick a specific shoe but just give them the color/style guidelines that way they can spend as much or as little as they want. They won't be obligated to do hair/makeup (if they are okay with doing it themselves or somewhere cheaper), and i will be buying their doj.
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sorry that sounded cold. i feel bad, just like u do... but then if u really look at it.... 175$ deposit by AUGUST any1 can do. its literally about a dollar a day. when everythign is broken down.. it doesnt seem like a big tab.
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tell them to set aside a dollar a day
Thats a good idea lol... maybe I will give them all an envelope lol.
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I definately think that you doing a mani/pedi day will help the girls a bit with money...Sometimes mani/pedi's can be expensive (depending on where you go...) Also don't make their hair/makeup mandatory, let them do what they want (If they want to do their own makeup...go to their hair stylist...) Also, shoe's...let them wear whatever shoes they want (its can be something they already have or something cheap that if they really want a new pair they can get themselves) just give them a color and let them take care of it themselves
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I agree, I just don't like to be a burden!
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Try not to stress it...the girls are doing this bc they love you and want to take part in your day. If they really couldnt do it they would say something to you...it will all work out!!!
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Posted by rocketsummer17
I definately think that you doing a mani/pedi day will help the girls a bit with money...Sometimes mani/pedi's can be expensive (depending on where you go...) Also don't make their hair/makeup mandatory, let them do what they want (If they want to do their own makeup...go to their hair stylist...) Also, shoe's...let them wear whatever shoes they want (its can be something they already have or something cheap that if they really want a new pair they can get themselves) just give them a color and let them take care of it themselves
I'm def. going to let them choose to do their own hair, makeup and shoes.... DOJ I will handle, mani/pedi's I have a hook up so that will help! I'm starting to feel better a little...
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I felt really guilty like you too, my dress was $240 but then two girls needed extra length, then tax, it came to almost $300! I felt horrible and told me girls this but they assured me they didn't mind spending the money.
I am going to try to pay for their hair and makeup to help with the cost.
They said they didn't mind either, but I know the true circumstances. It bothers me.
I think I will pay for all their mani/pedis. Like have a mani/pedi party the day before the wedding, like a morning thing. I was thinking about doing this for them for a while. Serve Momosa's and bloody Mary's, little breakfast foods, get some mani/pedi's etc.
Yea I'm doing the mani/pedi thing already too, I think its a cute idea. I would wait to see what happens in the next few months. The girls know how much the dress will be so they should be saving, that's what I do at least for the weddings I am in this year. But like I said, you never know what the coming months hold for these girls, they could get raises, bonus', new jobs, etc. So don't stress too much
