Breaks

Bridex100 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 03:10 PM

Breaks

Have any of you taken a break with your fiances? Or were you together the entire time.

We took a break at the 2 year mark. That is when I fully appreciated what a wonderful man FH was.

irishsweetheart Posted: Aug 03, 2006 03:29 PM

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FH and I start dating 11/26/1999 and then we broke up on 08/08/2000. (He broke up with cause he said he needed space - I will admit we were young and my mother was very controlling)

We were apart for a few months before he came back around and I refused to get back together with him until a full year passed (a promise that I had made to myself) to make sure we both understood that this is what we wanted. We got back together on 08/15/2001 and this upcoming 08/15/2006 we will be celebrating out 5 year anniversary.

I think it was the best thing for us to be honest because we both were really hurt by that time apart and had time to think about what we really wanted. It just so happened that fate brought us back together and we realized that we were perfect for each other.

As much as it hurt at the time, that one year apart was probably the best thing that could have happened because now I know with my whole heart he is the one for me!

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Aug 03, 2006 03:57 PM

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no... we have been together the whole time. But my parents did break up while they were dating, and now they have been happily married for 31 years!

JGirl11297 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 04:00 PM

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No we didn't....at times I wanted to b/c I was angry but we have been together for 9 years

Maybride519 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 04:08 PM

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Dh and I never took a break throughout our relationship or engagement. We've been together almost 7 years now and I will admit, in the begining it was really hard because he had trust issues because he was cheated on. Luckily we never broke it off and continued to work through our problems. I never gave him a reason not to trust me but once you've been burned, it is hard not to let people in so easily. Oddly enough, after we were together one year, he started to ease up because he realized that I wasn't going anywhere.

LuckySevens Posted: Aug 03, 2006 04:14 PM

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We have been together for the entire 6 years of our relationship, but i have hated him for a day or so here and there and swore it was over, but it never was.

soontobemrsc Posted: Aug 03, 2006 04:43 PM

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DH & I took a break after about 2 years of dating. Actually I broke up with him and swore he was the biggest mistake of my life. That is when I was young and stupid. We staid in touch for most of the year and half that we were apart. We work in the same industry so we never really cut each other out completely. We both dated other people. But eventually we both realized where we made mistakes the first time and had taken each other for granted. We got back together and we were engaged a year and a half later. Taking that break was the best thing for us. We both needed it and it's made us so much stronger.

Shiv Posted: Aug 03, 2006 04:45 PM

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no, we've been together for almost 6 years non-stop. He was a sophmore in college when I meet him and i was a senior and had been single and having a great time all my college years.
so when we he graduated I told him I wouldn't be upset if he wanted to take a break (cause I didn't want him to one day wake up and think he never enjoyed college cause he had a serious GF the whole time). but he just said, i would never want that. i would be unhappy if we weren't together and that was that.

i don't think it's unusual though, and sometimes it's the best thing to do. my sis and her hubby did it when they were dating and it brought them closer then they had ever been.

AMGBride2008 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 04:45 PM

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Posted by Maybride519

Dh and I never took a break throughout our relationship or engagement. We've been together almost 7 years now and I will admit, in the begining it was really hard because he had trust issues because he was cheated on. Luckily we never broke it off and continued to work through our problems. I never gave him a reason not to trust me but once you've been burned, it is hard not to let people in so easily. Oddly enough, after we were together one year, he started to ease up because he realized that I wasn't going anywhere.

Same here... he had trust issue due to a past relationship. We've certainly had our moments but never once ended it. Funny enough, 2 weeks before he proposed we had the mother of all fights and I thought for sure that it was over, I was looking for another place just in case it got to that. For 3 entire days we spoke not one word to each other... finally and thankfully we got past it and two weeks later we were engaged.

Meaghan729 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 04:49 PM

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'BUT WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!'

gosh I miss Friends!

Mandyin2007 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 05:22 PM

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We've been together the entire time!

Naunie Posted: Aug 03, 2006 05:27 PM

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Not a break, but we did date when we were younger. Just for a few months. Then, after satying in touch, almost 4 years later we started dating again. I carried a torch for him the whole time. I always said that no matter who I married, I would think of Victor that morning, and just think 'what if'.
aww.

sookthecat Posted: Aug 03, 2006 05:33 PM

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We've been together the entire time.

iBCraZ131 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 05:34 PM

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FH and I have been together since January of 1999 but we took a short 2 month break last year in April and May. He was living in NJ at the time and was finishing up his degree and it was just so stressful on both of us so we decided it would be best to take a break. But now we are happily engaged!!

PaddysGirl15 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 05:34 PM

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no break- together over 4 years!!

Soon2BeMrsD Posted: Aug 03, 2006 05:53 PM

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we took a break(we'll i broke up with him ) at the like 3 1/2 year mark...we were so young (i was 19 he was 22) and living together and just got in a bad rut so we split for like 9 months...

MichLiz213 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 06:16 PM

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We didn't break up at all, but we had a LOT of fights last summer and it almost came to that.....we were happy with each other but everything around us (our jobs, mostly) were making us miserable and it affected our relationship. All of the problems we had at work we would end up taking out on each other. Glad to say that we are both in positions and jobs we love now and we became much happier. I figure if we lasted through that, we could last through anything.

kam0813 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 06:38 PM

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we're been together for almost 2 years...no breaks

JIFFY Posted: Aug 03, 2006 06:52 PM

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FH and I broke up about seriously 6 times in 2 years He always broke up with me. He was so scared. The last time he did it I said see ya! And started dating other people. I broke up with someone to give him another chance. As soon as he found out there was someone else and that I was going out all the time I started getting flowers sent and things like that. It's true that if you just let it go it will come back.