bridal heartache/epiphany

i will try to keep this as 'cliff's notes' as possible as the last few days have been pretty hard.

soooooooooo my best friend was supposed to get married this october at her dream venue and to her dream fh...all along her mother has had stage 4 brain cancer for the past 5 years...

fast forward to this past friday when she found out her mother is going into hospice care.

her RH and church had an opening for march 11 so now the wedding will go on!

this is such a heartbreaking thing to watch my best friend go through and i love her mom very much so this is truly a bittersweet time.

it makes me so happy that my friend gets to have one of her last memories with her mom be something so important to her at the hall of her dreams to the man of her dreams and that her mom will get to see her walk down the aisle in a white dress. life is not fair and she is truly blessed.

i know a lot of you girls on here have lost parents and close relatives and i can't even begin to imagine the pain that hits you every day. just seeing my friend go through this and how wearing it is- i wish i could take even the tiniest amount of her pain from her.

it also makes you really think about what is important in life. it sounds so cliche but it is so true. she will have her hall and her dress and all of her friends and family there but she will never get to accomplish anywhere near the amount of 'checks' that we get excited about every day.

you only get one mother and hopefully only one wedding and i hope this wedding will be everything she has dreamed of.

now....i have to start writing my maid of honor speech! i thought i had a few more months for this- any help is more than welcome

I just cried reading that.. I am so sorry that she is going through this and you are too.. FH and I lost his mother almost 2 years and it pains me that she is not around to see all the excitement even though I know she is watching down...

It really does put a lot into perspective... hugs for you and your friend

You are soooooooooooooo right, My prayers are with your Friend. Sometimes, I feel I complain about little things, and there is so much to be gratitude for. My dad is going through prostate cancer right now, and that is why I had to plan my wedding in six months, because I NEED him to walk me down the aisle. I just pray and thank GOD everyday, I am bless to still have my parents and be close to them.

Many hugs to your friend and you. That is such a heartbreaking story, and I can't even imagine what she's going through. It did make me happy to read that her mom will still be able to be part of her day by moving up the wedding. She will have a beautiful day and it will be such an amazing memory knowing that her mom was there for her.

you already know how i feel about this.

if you or your friend need anything, i'm here <3

you are a true friend!!!!

things like this really put life into perspective....that is so heartbreaking, I can't imagine ever being in her position. I hope she is able to have an amazing day and honestly no matter what, knowing her mother is there will make it amazing in itself. She will never be able to get that back.

I have a friend in a similar situation, she finally married the man of her dreams and all she ever wanted was to get married and have a baby(she thought she might not b able to get prego) ahe is 8 months prego and found out her husband has stage 4 colon ca with mets to the liver...

its just sad that these girls cant truly enjoy the happiness of this time in their life...I know its hard to see it now but I really believe everything happens for a reason and when the dust settles, eventually we find out why or learn something or become stronger because of it

lots of hugs and prayers and love to your bff!

My heart goes out to your friend. Nobody wants to think of their wedding day as the last days for anyones parents. Im happy that she was able to move up the date. I truly hope that her mother has the strength to enjoy this day with her.

WOW!!! I am in tears. It's a sad and happy moment for your friend. But she is very lucky to have you as her MOH/friend thru all this. I'm sure having her mother there present at her wedding is more important than her having other lil details that takes months to research.

I think losing a parent is the biggest fear I have. I know eventually we all have to go thru it, but not when they are suffering from a horrible disease that is hard to cure. I tell my parents all the time they HAVE TO live forever and they just smile. They know i'm joking but deep inside I wish it was a fact.

thank you for sharing your friends story...the way you wrote that was so beautiful and made me tear up. you are so right about what really matters!
your friend is so blessed that she will get to share her special day with her mother. I wish her all the best and hope she has an amazing day! good luck with your speech!

this is so sad but i'm glad to know that they were able to move things up. this was very well said. i wish you friend the best of everything and to keep her in my prayers. you are a great friend!

I am sooooo sorry Jackie!!! This story is so heartbreaking. But your friend is soooo lucky to have you by her side to help through all the difficult times ahead. Life is so short and we often dont even realize this until its too late. I hope your friend has an amazing wedding day filled with lots and lots of LOVE!!! <3

This whole thing breaks my heart. Your friend will NEVER forget your kindness with this whole situation. I'll keep your friend, her mother and you in my prayers.

awwww jackie I'm so sooo sorry to hear this! Im glad to hear that she was able to move up her wedding and her mom will get to be there

Its so hard my friend just lost her mother to cancer. It isn't fair.

Jacks,
You know how I feel about this whole thing.

I havent stopped thinking about you ,your bff, her family and mommy.

I love you and I wish you all the love and strength in the world.

I will gather my speech giving thoughts and get back to you..

Jack, I am so sad to hear this. I wish there was a better update.

However, I truly hope that she is as happy as possible having her mother there to see her get married. She is extremely lucky to have such a great friend and MOH.

All of you will be in my prayers. LOVE YOU.

that is seriously heartbreaking!!! What an awful situation I'm glad that she was able to move her wedding up so that her mother can see her walk down the aisle.

I'm so sorry! I don't know waht else to say...

But it you sound like you will make a wonderful speech. Your post was eloquent and I think everyone who read it felt your love and admiration for her