BRIDAL PARTY

I HAVENT PIKED ALL OF MY BRIDAL PARTY YET! THE WEDING IS NEXT SEPT...WHEN DO YOU THINK I SHOULD LET THEM KNOW? HERES THE SCENARIO OF WHY I HAVENT CHOSE WHO YET. SO FAR I HAVE MY MOH (WHO KNOWS),MY 3 CLOSE GIRLFRIENDS,AND FSIL! THE PROBLEM IS THE KID SITUATION. IM CLOSE WITH MY 1ST OUSINS WHO LIVE IN NY WHO ARE 13,8 AND MY GODDAUGHTER WHO IS 4! THEY ARE MY HEART. I ALSO HAVE 1ST UZ IN GA WHO I RARELY SEE ANYMORE. NOW I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE THEM ALL IN THE WED BUT MY FIANCE SAYS ITS TOO MANY KIDS WHICH I AGREE BUT I DONT WANT TO HURT ANYONES FEELINGS. THESE KIDS ALREADY ASSUME THERE IN THE WEDDING I KNOW IT WOULD BREAK THERE HEARTS IF THEY WERENT. WHAT WOULD YOU DO? THE 3 THAT IM CLOSE WITH ARE GIRLS THE 3 THAT LIVE IN GA ARE 13..GIRL AND 2 BOYS 18 AND 8! AND LETS NOT FORGET MY 6 YEAR OLD SISTER WHO IS THE FLOWERGIRL AND HIS GODSON WHO IS 3 AND RB! IM GOING CRAZY!!!!

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Well I think maybe you should wait a little bit. We made the mistake of asking our bridal party too soon, and Relationships have changed a LOT! Now we have to deal with the issues of unasking a groomsman. As for the kids, Im sure they understand that you cant have THAT many kids in your wedding party. Maybe just have the ones closest to you, and give the other kids a 'job' at the wedding to make them feel special. JMO. Good luck with everything :)

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KimmieG said it EXACTLY the way I would of.

Wait!!

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I would ask your MOH, like you did and then speak to the parents of ALL children before asking them. Being in a wedding party costs $$$ and some of the parents may a)not have the extra money or b)not want to have to worry about getting dresses for the kids etc... Also, you can include children without having them in the bridal party by asking them to give out the programs, help with the petals at the end of the ceremony, the older can do a reading etc... Also, if you invite your cousin's from NY, you have to invite all the rest of them. Are you sure the ones in GA will come for the wedding? It is expensive to take off from work, fly or drive here, stay a few days etc... That is why you should speak to the parents about it first.
I will say that my best friend's 14 year old is my Jr. BM (but we just call her a BM) and she has been excited about it from Day 1. So make sure the kids you love are included in someway.

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well michelle...it sounds so easy when you read it i guess but the 3 girls are the daughters of my m.o.h and the 3 in ga are my godmothers kids so yes they will be coming here!well i know that the money isnt a big issue i know if i ask them they will allow there children in! its not much of a hassle. they already let me know that it wouldnt be a problem so i can even use that as an excuse. im soooo confused!!!!! this has been the only thing that ive been stressing about so far!

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I also have a lot of kids in the family who I love to death and I know assumed that they were in the wedding. I'm having my niece and three cousins (sisters) who will all be 9 and 10 yrs old as junior bridesmaids. I may have a ringbearer too. I actually did not want to have any kids in the wedding for this reason. I think its easier to justify to them why they are not in the wedding if no kids are in it at all. I decided I couldn't leave out the girls because my mother would have harrassed me forever about it if I did. I'm leaving out my two godsons and another male cousin. I think you have a good excuse to leave out the boys. If they are not ringbearer age, there really is not much of a role for them. I would also consider maybe leaving out the 13 year old if she wouldn't be too upset. If you only have very young kids and grown women, she may be able to accept it better. If it really would break your heart to not have them in it, consider having all the kids and fewer adults. I left out my cousin who is like my sister to make room for her kids. Don't let it make you crazy-I obsessed about it and then I realized that you make the rules. Someone else will always have a bigger and more outrageous wedding party than you.

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i am bitter this week, but I will say I have 3 bridesmaid who have all been what I thought were my best friends for the last 17 years. As of now, all of them have made me cry in one way or another and I am wishing that I only had my brother as my man of honor and that's it. I guess wedding stress is enough to break up even the strongest of friendships sometimes. Sorry to vent to your question!

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maybe some of them could hand out programs----the bubbles/rose petals/bells at the end of the church ceremony---bring up the gifts at the church---etc.