Does anyone have someone close to them that they didn't put in the bridal party? I'm really asking for FH. At first he decided to just keep it small and seeing him and this other person together I feel like maybe he should have put him in. Or if you are close and just keeping it small, do you say something to them? Give them another thing to do? I don't know... I was hoping for just a laid back wedding where nobody stresses about these things but I know feelings can get hurt so maybe he should have had him... (he hasn't said anything about this, I just started thinking about it for some reason)
LisaReyes
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I feel like choosing your bridal party should be stress free, because it's your day and other people need to support your decisions. (I know it rarely is.) If your FH and this guy are truly friends, then he will be happy for the two of you and they'll remain friends - regardless of he's in the wedding or not.
If the problem is that you and FH want him in the wedding party and are concerned about other peoples feelings or something else - I say put him in. It's your day - you get to pick.
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teacherteacher
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FH didn't include one of his close friends in our BP - he had to make a tough call but I think everyone understood. Basically, if he chose that guy, then the guy's band manager/bff/kind of crazy lady would want to be in the BP, too, and FH doesn't feel comfortable with that.
I also didn't include my only two cousins in my BP, but I think everyone understands since one cousin had no family in hers and my 3 girls are all my best friends since middle school.
fdnybride163
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im ready to hurt FH because he cant decided. its one of those well if i have X i have tp have Y... and he wants X but not Y..
in the end you have to choose the people who are happiest for you and will be there to support you with no drama... and sometimes people cant make the financial commitment to being in a BP
Shanti12
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Thanks for sharing! It's can be touchy. He's a family member and he was ONLY going to have his brothers and two best friends. And I have 4 girls. It doesn't matter to me if it's even... I can't even remember why he didn't include this guy... I guess because this way he only has his brothers and nobody gets offended because they are the only fam in the party. I think he also felt not super close to him because after we got engaged he didn't seem super happy for us - but then we learned why and it wasn't a big deal... I don't want to share ALL his details on here ... but I remembered the situation because we spent time with him last night. I guess I'll just ask him how he feels later if he changed his mind at all. It's also financial for us because he's giving them GOOD gifts lol!
