Bridal party dilema

Here we go again. It seems (for me at least) that the only problems & dilemmas I have been running into planning this wedding had to do with the bridal party.

This is not a big delemma, but I thought that since you girls are absolutely wonderful, I'd ask your opinions before I even ask my MOH (she is extremely opinionated.. sometimes WAY TOO MUCH!!) Maybe if I had some feedback from you girls, I t would steer me into the right direction on making my decision.

Anyway.. Here goes. I have known my friend Alexandria since we were int he 2nd grade. We have been close friends since then, and have always consider her my best friend for most of my life. As we got older (& she met her soon-to-be husband, we grew very much apart because she was going through a rough time in her life and moved out to Pennsylvania with her mom)
Anyway to make a long story short, we happend to cross paths very recently. My dilemma is whether or not I should ask her to be in my bridal party.
I already have 8 girls (& 9 guys...Anthony has 2 best men). I just feel that my bridal party is tremendous! I cant even imagine inviting her to my wedding without her being in the bridal party.. I'd feel terrible being that we were so close our whole lives. I know it shouldn't matter how many people I have in my bp, but still.. I just feel that teh BP is HUGE enough and on the same note, if I dont ask her.. Its just wrong!

What are your opinions on this ??

Thanks!

I have a VERY similiar situation...I am friends with a girl since we were 2 & she moved away at the age of 4...Amazingly we stayed in close contact & visted often...When we received the age of 17, we grew apart & I had not spoken to her til this past January. She called me out of the blue to tell me her mom had suddenly passed away...I ended up driving out to Amangasett for her mom's funeral (w/kiddo115) and it was great to see her again...

At this point my bridal party was already figured out & dresses were ordered but there was no way I would have even asked her to by a part of the BP just because no one can say if she will not disappear again...She is getting an invitation to the wedding

So I think that your friend should understand the situation & should not expect to be asked!

I would ask her, it seems like you really want to. To add one more girl will even out the BP, so it's certianly not a bad thing! It's times like these when you might just rekindle the friendship you once had!! HTH!!!

Off course you will invite her to the wedding—and having her in the wedding party—well im sure if you explain to her how you all ready have such a large wedding party and you wish you had gotten back in tough w/ her sooner she would understand—Good luck- im sure you will make the right decision.