Bridal Party, do I include her???
Okay, so here's my dilemma:
I had this friend who I used to be extra close with. We were best friends from 6th grade, up until 11th grade. Summer of 11th grade, I went away to visit family in Greece for 7 weeks. I come back and she's with this guy that was trying to date me, but pushed away because I had a strict family (not because I didn't like him, but I'm glad I never went out with him because meeting my FH is the best ever, he's really the best thing that has happened to me!). So I come back and she tells me she's been seeing him for 2 months. I forgave her because she was my closest and bestest friend at the time, and I was gullible and naive. We remained friends, but things have changed in the friendship.
It happens so that I met my FH though her because her mother was dating and living with my FH's father. Her mother is the sweetest and nicest people you will ever meet. She is still seeing (friends with benefits kind of thing) my FH's father but they don't live together anymore.
Over the years, I've tried to distance myself from her, and this passed year, we stopped talking for a while until she texted me 5 months ago that her dad has cancer, and I felt horrible not to talk to her about it. Now she thinks that we're best friends even though we hardly see each other or talk on the phone (she texts only, which is so annoying). She's a Debbie Downer kind of person, always depressed and upset and every time something good happens to me, she never really shows that she's happy. For example, when we were 17, I said I was taking my diver's test (we were with her mother and FH's father hanging out) and in front of all of them she said I hope you fail, and then proceeded with, I'm kidding. But it took her 4 times to pass the driver's test, which I thought was karma. When I got engaged, she even asked to try on the ring? What woman does that? And then asks me who's in the bridal party. I said family, but I have 5 family women and 4 best friends (not her).
My question:
Is it horrible not to have her in the wedding being that she's the reason I even met my FH?
I know it's a lot to read, and I hope you girls read it all to fully understand this lady. I see her every so often, and the worst part of my guilt of not wanting her in the wedding is that her mother would probably not want to talk to me again, and I have such a higher respect and love for her, than I do her daughter. Weird.
I had this friend who I used to be extra close with. We were best friends from 6th grade, up until 11th grade. Summer of 11th grade, I went away to visit family in Greece for 7 weeks. I come back and she's with this guy that was trying to date me, but pushed away because I had a strict family (not because I didn't like him, but I'm glad I never went out with him because meeting my FH is the best ever, he's really the best thing that has happened to me!). So I come back and she tells me she's been seeing him for 2 months. I forgave her because she was my closest and bestest friend at the time, and I was gullible and naive. We remained friends, but things have changed in the friendship.
It happens so that I met my FH though her because her mother was dating and living with my FH's father. Her mother is the sweetest and nicest people you will ever meet. She is still seeing (friends with benefits kind of thing) my FH's father but they don't live together anymore.
Over the years, I've tried to distance myself from her, and this passed year, we stopped talking for a while until she texted me 5 months ago that her dad has cancer, and I felt horrible not to talk to her about it. Now she thinks that we're best friends even though we hardly see each other or talk on the phone (she texts only, which is so annoying). She's a Debbie Downer kind of person, always depressed and upset and every time something good happens to me, she never really shows that she's happy. For example, when we were 17, I said I was taking my diver's test (we were with her mother and FH's father hanging out) and in front of all of them she said I hope you fail, and then proceeded with, I'm kidding. But it took her 4 times to pass the driver's test, which I thought was karma. When I got engaged, she even asked to try on the ring? What woman does that? And then asks me who's in the bridal party. I said family, but I have 5 family women and 4 best friends (not her).
My question:
Is it horrible not to have her in the wedding being that she's the reason I even met my FH?
I know it's a lot to read, and I hope you girls read it all to fully understand this lady. I see her every so often, and the worst part of my guilt of not wanting her in the wedding is that her mother would probably not want to talk to me again, and I have such a higher respect and love for her, than I do her daughter. Weird.
