So I was talking to a friend at work who was complaining that when she got married, her bridal party didn' t help her plan at all. This made me start to wonder:
What exactly do you expect you bridal party to help with?
Obviously I want them to help my Mom and Sister plan the shower and bachelorette party,but what else are they supposed to do? I had some girls come with me to add stuff to my registry, and some girls come to do silly dress trying on, but most of the big stuff I feel like I want to do with FH...any thoughts on how to include them?
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i dont expect anything from any1.. esp bp lol
i expect the worst, hope for the best that way im content. its quite sad ppl in my life dont and wont put the effort that i have for them.. but like is aid, expect the worst that way u wont be disappointed.
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I expect the bridal party to put me as their first priority and responsibility for the next 1.5 years. I plan on communicating with them via email to keep them included and up to date on everything. I assigned my sister, my MOH, to stalk them about helping her out with doing different things. Maybe you can enlist your MOH's help? I think you should talk to them or communicate somehow what you expect of them. Every BP is different and some girl's may not have experience so they may not know. I am a BM for one of my friends, and another friend of mine who is also a BM told me recently that she wished the bride told us what is expected of us because this was her first time as a BM and she doesn't really know what she is supposed to do.
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i honestly am not expecting them to do all that much. I expect them to help with the shower and bachelorette party planning. But other than that, I really only expect them to be there and support me and fh on our big day.
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Posted by MarjorieFrank
I expect the bridal party to put me as their first priority and responsibility for the next 1.5 years. I plan on communicating with them via email to keep them included and up to date on everything. I assigned my sister, my MOH, to stalk them about helping her out with doing different things. Maybe you can enlist your MOH's help? I think you should talk to them or communicate somehow what you expect of them. Every BP is different and some girl's may not have experience so they may not know. I am a BM for one of my friends, and another friend of mine who is also a BM told me recently that she wished the bride told us what is expected of us because this was her first time as a BM and she doesn't really know what she is supposed to do.
That's sort of my question--what kinds of things would you 'assign them'?
I was in a BP when I was 12, and none of my friends have been in BPs before, so we're all sort of new at this!
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I don't know about assignments, I really just want their help at the shower and to accompany me to my b-party. With the shower, maybe you can tell whoever is throwing it for you to contact your BMs with the specific help they need, if necessary. I want the most help and support on the day of, so if you feel the same way just tell them that. Also, my friend who was a clueless BM wished that the bride told us more than a few months in advance how she wanted our hair done so that she could make an appointment. I think that it's just simple little things that sometimes the bride may overlook, but just to clue your girls in.
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i don't expect the bridal party to do anything for me. i am very controlling & i like to do everything my self. the only person i that helps me with everything is my sister (MOH).
however, since the bridesmaids are my cousins i hope they help my mom & sister out with shower stuff.
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I expected help with DIY projects and maybe going to vendors with me or helping me find things online. I got NONE of that .... pretty SAD but I learned a lot
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What i expect from my bridal party...
* to say yes when i ask them * Buy and wear a purple bm dress * Come to all events (shower, bparty, RH, and day of obv) * Help whoever is throwing the bridal shower
The end!
(i'm very easy to get along with and to make happy lol)
oh (this is my 3rd edit) lol... To not cause drama w/in the bridal party!!! It's gonna be hard cuz they are all in different financial positions.
I've been on the other side and it *****. I will have a spy who tells me everything (insert evil laugh here!)
oh (4th) to keep tums and pepto bismo available and within reach at all times prior to the ceremony. lol
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Posted by MrsC2010
i honestly am not expecting them to do all that much. I expect them to help with the shower and bachelorette party planning. But other than that, I really only expect them to be there and support me and fh on our big day.
i'm with you on this one....i have all the planning under control, i just ask them to show up and be happy and supportive the day of.
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I expect certain members of my bp esp my MOH (2 are kind of useless) to help with the shower, bacholerette, diy projects and attend any other bp events i schedule-like bp dress shopping, or if i need someone to come with me to see a vendor
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i expect them to show up to the wedding looking GOOOOD... as for eveyrthing else I have it undercontrol. I am a control freak and like to do everything myself. my mom and sis can handle the shower and bach party
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Posted by grkbarbie
i dont expect anything from any1.. esp bp lol
i expect the worst, hope for the best that way im content. its quite sad ppl in my life dont and wont put the effort that i have for them.. but like is aid, expect the worst that way u wont be disappointed.
I feel the same way. But 1 of my MOH's is very helpful and if I don't have time to research something she'll do it for me. And she does a great job. But I never really expected anything from any of them.
Only my MOH's have really offered to do anything, everyone else is doing their own thing. But I'm not mad, I don't expect everyone to be excited about my planning. I actually think my planning has made everyone want to elope. lol
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Its funny this was posted today - i CANNOT get the girls together at all. Im actually a little pissed too - my sister is in from up state she got here yesterday and im assuming leaving sunday- DOESNT have time to see me - but shes got time for this guy shes randomly seeing GRRRRR -
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Posted by AdriandSteve
What i expect from my bridal party...
* to say yes when i ask them * Buy and wear a purple bm dress * Come to all events (shower, bparty, RH, and day of obv) * Help whoever is throwing the bridal shower
The end!
(i'm very easy to get along with and to make happy lol)
oh (this is my 3rd edit) lol... To not cause drama w/in the bridal party!!! It's gonna be hard cuz they are all in different financial positions.
I've been on the other side and it *****. I will have a spy who tells me everything (insert evil laugh here!)
oh (4th) to keep tums and pepto bismo available and within reach at all times prior to the ceremony. lol
You seriously are awesome love your posts!!!!!!
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What I expect: * Show up at most, if not all (must have a legit excuse) wedding events * Wear the dress that is picked for everyone * Wear the right color shoes that I request (I'm not picking their shoes, just the color) * Behave appropriately at all wedding events * Help my mom and MOH's with the shower * Help with Bachelorette party * Make it to their fittings when necessary * Help with any DIY projects if I decide to do them and ask for help
I did not ask any to go to vendors with me because that was something I wanted to do strictly with FH. I'm not going to be super picky on things, but I do like things done a certain way. I want my girls to have a good time too, but if I feel I need help, I would expect them to be the first to offer.
ETA: I forgot the most important one:
I expect them to stop me from killing FH during the next year whenever he pisses me off!!!!!!
T E R I
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I don't expect anything from them, just to buy the dress that I picked out, show up for things (shower, RD, wedding) thats i'm not demanding of them
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I expect them to be on time for all wedding events, help plan the shower and bachelorette party, and of course - not complain to ME if they hate the dress, food, or whatever. Thats what they have their BF's for.
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i'm not expecting anything from them really... except that they show up the day of.. dressed, sober and presentable.
TheLadyJ
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Other than show up at events, and wear their Bm dresses, I am not expecting anything.
Of course, if they would like to help I will certainly take them up on their offers to help stuff envelopes, and other DIY projects.
As my sister's MOH, she didn't ask for help with anything. I always asked her if she wanted company. She booked all the vendors with her FH, and I just sporadically helped out when she needed.
