Bridal party/friend advice

Bridal party/friend advice

Sorry you're going through this! If she went through a bad break-up last year, it sounds like she may just be a little bitter about the wedding since she's not happy right now - which is understandable, but she still should suck it up and be a good friend to you as well as be happy for you. At this point, it sounds like having her in your wedding is way more trouble than it's worth. I would have her as a guest because I agree that you may regret it down the line, but definitely not in the bridal party. I don't think you're being unreasonable, but in terms of the make-up you kind of have to let the girls decide if they want it or not because everyone has their own style, but I definitely don't think you're out of line with your other ideas - like the strapless dress.
You sound like you have a solid group of friends in your bridal party without her, I would stick to having the ones you know you can count on - you don't need any additional stress in your planning.

Hope that helps...Good luck!!

Bridal party/friend advice

I would definitely not have her in your bridal party. She sounds like an extremely jealous nasty person. I would invite her and if she chooses not to come, thats her own choice and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. if it was regarding money- if she is your friend, she should talk to you in private but that doesn't seam like the issue.
Honestly, there are people that just cannot be happy for others because their own life has hit a bump- but we have all had a low point!!! In my opinion, invite her as a guest and just let it go, don't make the effort to talk to her etc.
Remember, it's your wedding, get what YOU want

Bridal party/friend advice

As the other girls said, I have a suspicion it's more about jealousy than anything else. I'm sure she'd love to have you all to herself to go out searching for guys and partying like you may have done at the beginning of your friendship.

Regardless of the reason, she is being unreasonable and hurtful to you, and there's no reason to continue to allow this girl the honor of being part of your wedding party if she is not going to consider it an honor. I think you will definitely regret NOT inviting her as a guest if you decide to do that, your fiance is definitely right about that. One rarely regrets things they did, but almost always regrets things they didn't do.

Make sure she knows how important her being there on your special day is to you. Make sure she knows that regardless of whether you're engaged, married, or have kids, you'll always be her friend and you'll always support her. And point out how great of a wingman you can be now that you're not in competition for guys!! (My girls always love how brave I can be now that I know it doesn't matter if a guy isn't interested in me. LOL)

Don't stress, in the end, years from now, you're not going to remember this argument. You're going to look back on your wedding and remember that she was there. That's the important part. And even more important is that you are marrying the love of your life!!

Bridal party/friend advice

Wow & wow so sorry you have to deal with this, def keep her out of the bridal party because u dont need the added stress u need people to support u and be there for u when u need it, sounds like the rest of the girls and you MOH have it under control without her negative attitude. Her reasoning to be honest just sounds like she is extremely jealous of what you & FH have and that its all about u right now. Some people just cant be happy for others even when they supposed to b close to u, sucks but its true. For the guest thing since u have time wait on that decision and see how things pan out with over the next year. Good luck, wish u the best!

Bridal party/friend advice

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, I think we can all relate and have lost friends over things like this. IMO you are NOT asking too much of your bridesmaids, and not for nothing, aren't they supposed to WANT to help you and be super happy for you.
Don't feel bad about not having her in the wedding party, she's just way too much drama. At this point, wait on making a guest decision but don't send her a save the date (if you were doing them) just to be on the safe side. I say give her some space, don't push the issue and let her come to her senses, you dont' need any more stress. She may come around, she may not but it sounds like you have a great group of friends and family to help get you through this. Hugs to you!

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def. keep her out of the bp obviously she doesnt seem to care either way! its suppose to be a special day with the ones that love you and make every effort to support you! if she doesnt get it then maybe shes just someone that doesnt want to be bothered. you do what you have to do to have an amazing day!

Bridal party/friend advice

You're definitely being reasonable about everything. It seems like there are more maidzillas than bridezillas that I hear about! You don't need her bringing you down about YOUR day. I would hold off on making a decision about inviting her as a guest until you're ready to send out STDs. You still have a while before those go out and you can re-evaluate your relationship with this girl then. You don't need somebody in your life who isn't going to be happy for you when you have so many in your life who ARE happy for you!

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Thanks ladies I really appreciate the advice. It's super hard to make a clear decision when your in the middle of everything! I hope she comes around. I'm def not going to do anything right now. No calling or reaching out. If she comes to her senses she'll contact me. We shall see what happens! :)

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you don't sound very fond of your 'newer friend' but now taking it back will be the hard part :( sorry.

Bridal party/friend advice

Well I'm not fond of her right now considering her recent behavior and attitude change.