Bridal Party List of Duties??

I'm not making my BP do anything other than take care of their own duties like their dresses and tuxes. They're doing us the favor of being with us the day of our wedding, and it is OUR wedding. I don't think I should add more crap to their daily agendas for MY wedding... if I have a billion things to do and someone offers to give me a hand or if they want to be included in helping me do something like our favors or something, I'd glady accept and thank them for helping me, but I would never have like the nerve to give them a list of duties lol.

Knowing our friends they'd tell us to kiss off haha, they don't mind being asked to do something & would happily do it if asked accordingly, but tell them to do something and they'll tell you where to stick it lol.

LOL!!! Well not to do like crazy things.... but things like make sure I have my cake cutting stuff, quickly check the church to make sure they set up flowers, things like that.... nothing crazy- just little things to help me out. I know, my FH said that they are going to laugh at me and my sister is going to rip it up and throw it at me LOL!

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Posted by kristentinnelly

Some of my BM have offered to help me with the DIY stuff leading up to the wedding. I'm not going to give them a list for the day of the wedding though. I want to the girls to enjoy themselves as well as everyone else. I think they are just going to do teh usual bridal party stuff. Getting themselves ready and my MOH is on makeup/dress duty. The groomsman will have the usual responsibilities at the church with bringing people to their seats and handling out programs/petal cones. What else is there for the bridal party to do on the wedding day?

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Oh really the groomsmen have to seat people and give out programs? See, I didn't know that and I don't know what everyone is 'supposed' to do. I thought I had to figure out someone to help me to do those things lol.... I dont think the groomsmen know they need to do that either

At a few weddings I've been to the groomsman guide the guests to their seats hand out the programs and after the ceremony/mass is over the groomsman handed out the bubbles/petal cones/ect... for when you and your hubby leave the church.
What do the BM's do?

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Posted by cutiegirlxo

Oh really the groomsmen have to seat people and give out programs? See, I didn't know that and I don't know what everyone is 'supposed' to do. I thought I had to figure out someone to help me to do those things lol.... I dont think the groomsmen know they need to do that either

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Usually without asking, it's routine for bridesmaids to help get you dressed and join you in getting hair and makeup done. I mean it's pretty routine for the BM to help throw you a bridal shower and it is for the BMs and GM to throw the bachelorette/bachelor parties. There are sort of 'duties' I guess you could call them that your BP just usually takes on the role of doing. If you need help, I'd ask them to help you do something specific, but I definitely wouldn't print out a list and hand it to you because they would probably be slightly offended being told, not asked, what to do. I mean if you have a few things you know you'll need help with, say to them, 'there are a few things I know I'll need help with, if I gave you a list of the few things, would you mind helping me?' and I'm sure they'll say of course they'll help you.

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Posted by JSG10506

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Posted by cutiegirlxo

Oh really the groomsmen have to seat people and give out programs? See, I didn't know that and I don't know what everyone is 'supposed' to do. I thought I had to figure out someone to help me to do those things lol.... I dont think the groomsmen know they need to do that either

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Usually without asking, it's routine for bridesmaids to help get you dressed and join you in getting hair and makeup done. I mean it's pretty routine for the BM to help throw you a bridal shower and it is for the BMs and GM to throw the bachelorette/bachelor parties. There are sort of 'duties' I guess you could call them that your BP just usually takes on the role of doing. If you need help, I'd ask them to help you do something specific, but I definitely wouldn't print out a list and hand it to you because they would probably be slightly offended being told, not asked, what to do. I mean if you have a few things you know you'll need help with, say to them, 'there are a few things I know I'll need help with, if I gave you a list of the few things, would you mind helping me?' and I'm sure they'll say of course they'll help you.

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Yea, thats a good idea.... I just thought that they'd find it funny. They know how anal I am and I set up schedules for MYSELF (bc Im nuts like that) lol

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Posted by kristentinnelly

At a few weddings I've been to the groomsman guide the guests to their seats hand out the programs and after the ceremony/mass is over the groomsman handed out the bubbles/petal cones/ect... for when you and your hubby leave the church.
What do the BM's do?

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The only thing I can think of right now is they would work together to get things set up for my bachelorette party. I am going to be helping with my bridal shower b/c I'm the type of person that I'd rather do things myself b/c I'm so anal lol.... My makeup/ hair I can go alone... stuff like that I really dont care about- even if its on my wedding day. I would rather them help me remember stuff but someone said maybe I could just ask them straight out without putting it on paper... but I just thought it would be funny bc they know what type of person I am...and I write EVERYYYYYTHING down hahaha