Anyone else feel like their BMs are soooo not into the wedding? Mine are so busy w/ their own lives kinda makes we wish I didn't have a bridal party because I have friends who AREN'T in it and are more interested in my plans than the ones who ARE.
I am convinced the only thing my BMs are excited about is running around with inflatable penises at my bach party, whenever that is
jeffamanda080808
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Just playing Devils Advocate here but.....
Maybe they are doing stuff like planning a great shower and getting together day of kits? Maybe they seem uninterested now but they might be doing other things??????
What has happened to make you think they are not into it?
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I kinda feel like that about one of my BMs. We were really close for the last 7 years and now she seems to be distancing herself. It's kind of a bummer. And my MOH is far away with a baby. Ho hum. I'm excited enough for myself, though!! Yippeeee...wedding!!!
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Anyone else feel like their BMs are soooo not into the wedding? Mine are so busy w/ their own lives kinda makes we wish I didn't have a bridal party because I have friends who AREN'T in it and are more interested in my plans than the ones who ARE.
I am convinced the only thing my BMs are excited about is running around with inflatable penises at my bach party, whenever that is
I feel this way sometimes too. Some of my BM's dont really seem to care. It kinda *****! I had this great anticipation of how weddings and bridal parties where(like everyone was as excited as you are).......what a great diappointment!
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Anyone else feel like their BMs are soooo not into the wedding? Mine are so busy w/ their own lives kinda makes we wish I didn't have a bridal party because I have friends who AREN'T in it and are more interested in my plans than the ones who ARE.
I am convinced the only thing my BMs are excited about is running around with inflatable penises at my bach party, whenever that is
I feel this way sometimes too. Some of my BM's dont really seem to care. It kinda *****! I had this great anticipation of how weddings and bridal parties where(like everyone was as excited as you are).......what a great diappointment!
I had the same idea!! I thought my wedding would be like what we see in the movies.... everyone's plans for like 6 months revolve around one person's day! Of course that won't be the case in real life but come on.... SOME enthusiasm would be nice!
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Posted by jeffamanda080808
Just playing Devils Advocate here but.....
Maybe they are doing stuff like planning a great shower and getting together day of kits? Maybe they seem uninterested now but they might be doing other things??????
What has happened to make you think they are not into it?
I don't know, it's either one of 2 things.. 1- they have really busy lives
and 2- (I know I sound like a jerk for saying this but... ) they are jealous
lovebear7800
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i know how u guys feel i have the same problem. it seems like none of then care. it's starting to piss me off. they are stressing me out more than the wedding itself. i don't know what i was thinking there's 9 girls in the BP.
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WOW, I thought I was the only one!!! maybe a few seem interested but the rest don't even communicate with me, asking me how things are. When I was a bridesmaid I would be sooo excited for the bride, I would ask if there is anything I can help with. I have 7 BM's one being my cousin from out of state and she isn't even communicating with me regarding her dress. Its an Ann Taylor dress where she can just buy from the store and I haven't heard from her, I don't want it to be sold out, I try calling and NA, wft?? I know my BM's are not throwing a BS, my mom is. Some keep saying 'always the bridesmaid never the bride' bla bla blaaaa I need a drink !!!
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I would be really enthralled with a 'so, what's new with the wedding plans' kind of comment. Only my MOH and one of my BMs of 8 seems to recognize that I'm getting married in 4 months and swamped with emotion and plans. It's ok though...I'm a bit grateful that the others still see me for me and not solely as a bride.
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I've felt the same way since I started planning.....a couple of my bm's don't even call to ask how things are going with the planning or if there is anything they can do to help. that's all i'm asking for....a little bit of concern, the offer to help, acknowledgment that i'm getting married and i've asked YOU to participate in a big way on my day....but no, i get nothing
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i was just talking about this yesterday. When I was a BM I couldnt even have imagined how much time and effort and emotion go into a wedding (speaking now from a perspective) I was one of those not so excited BM. Now that I am in it I think I would be more supportive helpful and involved if I was asked.
I dont know if most people realize how much of an honor it is to be picked to be involved in your wedding. 1/2 my party is not in on it either they just say tell me what to do. The other 2 are in it all the way. Your girls will come around.
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i was just talking about this yesterday. When I was a BM I couldnt even have imagined how much time and effort and emotion go into a wedding (speaking now from a perspective) I was one of those not so excited BM. Now that I am in it I think I would be more supportive helpful and involved if I was asked.
I dont know if most people realize how much of an honor it is to be picked to be involved in your wedding. 1/2 my party is not in on it either they just say tell me what to do. The other 2 are in it all the way. Your girls will come around.
I agree 100%
Julybride08
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I totally understand. non of my girls every answer me back and they don't really call me anymore either. it's like they just don't care.
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I am actually feeling the same way. My Bridal Party is not helpful at all. I went to buy the dresses with only four girls and the other 2 don't have time so I told them that they can't be my BM's if they don't go buy the dresses by Sunday. I really don't care at this point. I just want to be stress free.
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Posted by jeffamanda080808
Just playing Devils Advocate here but.....
Maybe they are doing stuff like planning a great shower and getting together day of kits? Maybe they seem uninterested now but they might be doing other things??????
What has happened to make you think they are not into it?
could be the case...ya never know
queenbean
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I'm a little surprised that there are so many of u with similar issues, I thought I was the only one out there with crappy friends!
One of them doesn't even think she will be able to make my bridal shower and doesn't seem to care. She knows about it 6 weeks in advance- give me a break!
gabbie83
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same here
Future Mulligan
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for the most part we all have long engagements - 1 year or longer and i dont think its right to expect people to want to talk about your wedding constantly throughout the engagement - i think thats expecting too much from your friends - b/c they do have their own lives and own things going on....i only have 3 bridesmaids, my sister, fh's sister and my best friend - and i really dont talk about the wedding with them and i dont expect them to bring it up at all - i know that they dont want to hear about the wedding everytime i talk to them - there are so many other things going on in my life and theirs that we can talk about - and i would imagine that it gets boring to hear about someones wedding plans all the time...now i can totally see being upset if your BP was acting like that a week before the wedding - but to be honest i think some brides expect a little too much from their family and friends - sometimes i think we lose sight because we think we are owed all this attention just because we are getting married and we are brides....i notice that so many girls on here have had this problem with their BPs - i know for myself, i am not expecting anything different from my friends just because i got engaged and i havent had any problems at all - its just something to throw out there....
good luck - i hope everything works out!
Future Mulligan
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i can see being upset for not showing up to try on dresses, or order a dress, things like that.....but other stuff - it might not be as serious....im just trying to be devils advocate too!
