bridal party soooo not into it

True, most of my BP ***** horribly. I'm so lucky to have my MOH and Best Friend....they're wonderful! The rest of them could care less

Oh my goodness....I am so glad I am not alone! 3 of my bridesmaids are not into it either. My cousins(my MOH and jr. bridesmaid) and my sister in law, are doing everything! They are throwing the shower with my mom and the rest aren't helping. They don't know that I know that. I too would be very excited to be asked, What's new with the wedding? I just wish they were a little more excited! You know what drives me crazy....when they say, you still have so much time before the wedding...why are you getting stressed?! UGH!!

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Posted by susdoug

Oh my goodness....I am so glad I am not alone! 3 of my bridesmaids are not into it either. My cousins(my MOH and jr. bridesmaid) and my sister in law, are doing everything! They are throwing the shower with my mom and the rest aren't helping. They don't know that I know that. I too would be very excited to be asked, What's new with the wedding? I just wish they were a little more excited! You know what drives me crazy....when they say, you still have so much time before the wedding...why are you getting stressed?! UGH!!

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OMG I totally agree.... I hate when people say there's so much time.

I chalk it up to jealousy, to be honest.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

for the most part we all have long engagements - 1 year or longer and i dont think its right to expect people to want to talk about your wedding constantly throughout the engagement - i think thats expecting too much from your friends - b/c they do have their own lives and own things going on....i only have 3 bridesmaids, my sister, fh's sister and my best friend - and i really dont talk about the wedding with them and i dont expect them to bring it up at all - i know that they dont want to hear about the wedding everytime i talk to them - there are so many other things going on in my life and theirs that we can talk about - and i would imagine that it gets boring to hear about someones wedding plans all the time...now i can totally see being upset if your BP was acting like that a week before the wedding - but to be honest i think some brides expect a little too much from their family and friends - sometimes i think we lose sight because we think we are owed all this attention just because we are getting married and we are brides....i notice that so many girls on here have had this problem with their BPs - i know for myself, i am not expecting anything different from my friends just because i got engaged and i havent had any problems at all - its just something to throw out there....

good luck - i hope everything works out!

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I totally agree. My BM's have been there for me when I need them. But it's normally me bringing up wedding talk. I sometimes worry that I talk too much about myself with out asking what's going on in their lives. I think brides forget that although their wedding day is all about them...the 365 days or more leading up to it are not. lol....I think as long as you make the big things special, like dresses, showers and bachelorette parties that you have done your job as a good BM. Asking all the time about the little things is not on the criteria in my book. IMO.....

I agree- but they don't care about the little things OR the big things! They aren't planning my bridal shower and I know the only reason they are excited about the bach party is so they have another excuse to get wasted. Yup, that's my bridal party

omg i TOTALLY feel the same way-- I have a friend who isnt in the bridal party always asking me how things are going and offering to help out (i was a bmaid for her wedding recently, but didnt choose her because i chose cousins and friends i've been closer and known longer)
No one in my bridal party calls me or asks me how things are going. The ones that live in state never touch base with me- they just tease me and call me a bridezilla when i reach out to them about wedding stuff

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Posted by Adriana618

omg i TOTALLY feel the same way-- I have a friend who isnt in the bridal party always asking me how things are going and offering to help out (i was a bmaid for her wedding recently, but didnt choose her because i chose cousins and friends i've been closer and known longer)
No one in my bridal party calls me or asks me how things are going. The ones that live in state never touch base with me- they just tease me and call me a bridezilla when i reach out to them about wedding stuff

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There's a girl not in my wedding party who is more involved too..... I totally wish I had asked her

I totally am in the same position.....I can't even stress it anymore....My plan is to do Everything myself - and if that's how it's going to be....then NOBODY better bi*ch about it!!!!!
I'm so over trying to get everyone to 'get into it'...
I have found it to be impossible - I can't even get my cousin to call me back!!!(she's one of my bm). Don't worry, You are Not Alone!!