Bridal Shower ?? (2008 re-post)

I am hoping that you '07ers have some good feedback since some of you have gone through this situation:

This is my 'delemia' I have been in 7 wedding parties and have shared the cost of the bridal shower in 4 of those weddings (the others I was to young for).
I am in my best friends wedding this coming december and planned on contributing again. However the bride told her mom that she (brides mom) is to pay for the shower and not to ask us BP members to help, that it is rude....
My mom I know will be helping with the bridal shower expenses but I know she can't foot the entire bill. I dont want my mom or family to come off as cheap, or rude!
What's your opinion?

Actuallu my mom is paying for the whole thing. She just wants to to. If she asked the BP they would be more then willing to contribute.
My mom is taking it all on.

I have been in 3 weddings. In two of we,(bridesmaids) and mother shared the bill. In the third, the mother insisted on paying for the reception hall and us girls paid for all the decorations and gifts. However, I think that the mother wanted to pay for the reception hall because two of the girls in the wedding had no money, and I was saving for my wedding which FH and I are paying for...so that was nice of her...but I don't think it should be expected. I think the bill should be split, unless someone WANTS to pay for it all.

I feel like I am asking the Seniors (in high school) about PROM~

thank you so far ladies! I am glad to read that I am not soo crazy

My Mother is paying for the entire Bridal Shower, my MOH's have offered to help, but she has told them no...

If my mother couldn't afford to pay for my shower, I would contribute the balance of the money... but thats just the way I am... I don't think it is the Bridal Party's job to pay for everything or anything, I feel like they have better things to spend their money on then my shower...

JMO

every wedding i been in . which i been in 5. the bp has chip in along with the moms on both sides for the shower. i never came across any problems. funny kim my mom didn't know what to do with your aunts shower last year and i told her to have the bp chip in thats how i always done it.


for my shower this upcoming year sometime i know my bm and my mom are chipping in.

I think it depends on the circumstances and it works on a bride by bride basis. Traditionally, the BM's paid for it. I think, these days, if the mom can help in some way, she will. Or, if the mom wants something specific, she may pay for the whole thing (my friend's mom wanted a very elaborate, hoyty-toyty shower for her daughter so she foot the bill).

In my situation, I'm sure my mom will help but I know she will not be paying for the whole thing. Well, I don't think so anyway. I certainly do not think your mom will look cheap if she doesn't pay for your shower. I had a friend's mom not contribute a dime and I certainly didn't think she was cheap.