Bridal Shower ?

sportif7 Posted: Sep 22, 2011 09:33 PM

Bridal Shower ?

who pays?

Jill52787 Posted: Sep 22, 2011 10:03 PM

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crashing-

My mom is paying for mine.

jassy119 Posted: Sep 22, 2011 10:05 PM

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I have no idea.. I'm guessing my maid/matron of honor and bridesmaids will take care of this. I don't want them to do anything big.

sportif7 Posted: Sep 22, 2011 10:20 PM

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Posted by jassy119

I have no idea.. I'm guessing my maid/matron of honor and bridesmaids will take care of this. I don't want them to do anything big.

right...the whole party...not just the MOH alone

jassy119 Posted: Sep 22, 2011 10:59 PM

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Posted by sportif7

Posted by jassy119

I have no idea.. I'm guessing my maid/matron of honor and bridesmaids will take care of this. I don't want them to do anything big.

right...the whole party...not just the MOH alone

I'm guessing that both my matron and maid of honor will take care of most of it but I would figure my bridesmaids will take part in it as well. At least I hope so.

b2b2013 Posted: Sep 22, 2011 11:27 PM

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Yea, I'm assuming my mom and bridal party, since all but one of my BM's are my sisters. That's what we did for my sister's bridal shower

Kris10nGerard Posted: Sep 23, 2011 09:59 AM

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My mom and MOH (sister) are taking care of most of it. Hoping the rest of the bridal party helps out too.

sportif7 Posted: Sep 23, 2011 04:53 PM

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it appears as though it's generally a split cost? as a MOH, is it safe to assume it's OK or reasonable or customary for the bridal party to chip in...i understand i may pay a little more...but it should be a split cost, correct?

FromGtoC Posted: Sep 23, 2011 04:56 PM

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My mother will pay for it. I have been in many bridal parties and never was asked to pay for a shower. We have had bridal party gifts that we all chipped in for (like Tv's, dining room set, etc) and put together the games with prizes but never had to pay for the venue.

Irishbride16 Posted: Sep 23, 2011 06:02 PM

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Mom

sportif7 Posted: Sep 23, 2011 06:11 PM

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Posted by FromGtoC

My mother will pay for it. I have been in many bridal parties and never was asked to pay for a shower. We have had bridal party gifts that we all chipped in for (like Tv's, dining room set, etc) and put together the games with prizes but never had to pay for the venue.

me too...agreed...but apparently my bff doesn't see it that way or want it done that way...

SummerBeauty Posted: Sep 23, 2011 07:13 PM

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I think different families have different customs. Sometimes the mother takes it on and in other families it is almost taboo for the mother to pay for the daughter's shower..

As a bridesmaid numerous times I have always split the cost equally with the bridal party for the shower..

FromGtoC Posted: Sep 23, 2011 08:55 PM

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Oh no... I know you don't want to let your friend down but in this day and age it is difficult to pay for something like that.

AngieJusty Posted: Sep 24, 2011 07:51 AM

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Mother of the bride and the bridal party. I do believe that mom and MOH pay the majority of the price. I could be wrong.

sportif7 Posted: Sep 24, 2011 03:10 PM

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Posted by FromGtoC

Oh no... I know you don't want to let your friend down but in this day and age it is difficult to pay for something like that.

exactly! especially as a young 20 something, fresh out of grad school, working only 10 months and has her own wedding to plan, new car to buy (because i'm driving a 99 right now) and house hunting....i think it's very inappropriate for her to suggest this is solely my expense...

LindsaylovesJustin Posted: Sep 24, 2011 10:53 PM

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Posted by sportif7

Posted by FromGtoC

Oh no... I know you don't want to let your friend down but in this day and age it is difficult to pay for something like that.

exactly! especially as a young 20 something, fresh out of grad school, working only 10 months and has her own wedding to plan, new car to buy (because i'm driving a 99 right now) and house hunting....i think it's very inappropriate for her to suggest this is solely my expense...

Crashing - why not do a backyard party - If she is being that selfish then make something beautiful on the cheap :)

jassy119 Posted: Sep 25, 2011 01:01 AM

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Posted by LindsaylovesJustin

Posted by sportif7

Posted by FromGtoC

Oh no... I know you don't want to let your friend down but in this day and age it is difficult to pay for something like that.

exactly! especially as a young 20 something, fresh out of grad school, working only 10 months and has her own wedding to plan, new car to buy (because i'm driving a 99 right now) and house hunting....i think it's very inappropriate for her to suggest this is solely my expense...

Crashing - why not do a backyard party - If she is being that selfish then make something beautiful on the cheap :)

Agreed!

jassy119 Posted: Sep 25, 2011 01:06 AM

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IMO a bridal shower shouldnt be a huge event and theres no need for a venue or somewhr u have to pay a pp rate unless you plan to have a big glist.

Prob my maid/matron of honor will host my shower in either of their places, everyone bring a dish, chip in for some cute n cheap decoratons and their u go.. bridal shower done! Lol Thats how I would want it done.

sportif7 Posted: Sep 25, 2011 10:21 AM

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Posted by LindsaylovesJustin

Posted by sportif7

Posted by FromGtoC

Oh no... I know you don't want to let your friend down but in this day and age it is difficult to pay for something like that.

exactly! especially as a young 20 something, fresh out of grad school, working only 10 months and has her own wedding to plan, new car to buy (because i'm driving a 99 right now) and house hunting....i think it's very inappropriate for her to suggest this is solely my expense...

Crashing - why not do a backyard party - If she is being that selfish then make something beautiful on the cheap :)

it def may come to this...my backyard is large and could easily accomodate, i would have to OK with my parents though and parking might be an isue...however it's her head count i need to know first because if it's gonna be anymore then 60 people, it's gonna be expensive anyway i go about doing it...