So my shower is not a complete surprise, because I hate surprises haha but my mom and bridesmaids are pretty much taking care of it. I sent my mom a guest list with addresses of people I want to invite and it was pretty complete, like I included family and friends. I already had the addresses written out anyway from save the dates so it was easy. Does anyone else invite friends of family that are invited to the wedding but the bride doesn't personally know? I have zero problems with FMIL inviting people (besides the financial aspect but she's being respectful of that) but she had someone asking about the shower and where we are registered and I think I maybe met this lady once! I have no problems at all with it, I am just wondering if I did something wrong by leaving those people off the list? Or is it really just up to the parents if they want to invite certain people. I always thought it was bride's family/friends throwing it for her and if the in laws want to invite people they can but it's kind of weird.
2013Bride
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I'm running into the same situation. My mother and MoH are throwing my shower for me. I had given them a list of invites, but left a few of my fiancé's mothers friends that I have either never met or have met once & wouldn't recognize.... But my mother said I have to ask her for a list of who she would like invited. I am in the same thought process as you, esp at a bridal shower--it should really be the bride's closest family & friends....
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I'm running into the same situation. My mother and MoH are throwing my shower for me. I had given them a list of invites, but left a few of my fiancé's mothers friends that I have either never met or have met once & wouldn't recognize.... But my mother said I have to ask her for a list of who she would like invited. I am in the same thought process as you, esp at a bridal shower--it should really be the bride's closest family & friends....
Yeah I had my mom double check the list with her because there was one family member who is out of town and I wasn't sure what to do. It's one person and I don't care, but I thought maybe I was overlooking something and was I supposed to invite them? To me it's strictly for the bride and her loved ones, I wouldn't expect to get an invite with some girl's name on it that I never met!
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As far as I was told bridal showers are for close friends and family of the bride. I haven't got to this part yet. I wonder if I will have the same issue..hmmm
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I invited every single female on the guest list. Mom and MOH threw and they insisted. A few on FH's family/friends that I didn't know were there and they were a riot! It was so good to meet them/see them again and get to know them a little before the wedding.
I really think it's person preference and up to the ladies who are footing the bill!
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fdnybride163
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My list is very close girlfriends. Like the girls I talk to on a weekly basis. I let Fmil have a few ladies that she is close w that I may have met once or twice but they are close w her so I wanted to let them enjoy.
Shower shouldn't be another wedding. It's people who know you on an intimate level and want to wish you well
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My list is very close girlfriends. Like the girls I talk to on a weekly basis. I let Fmil have a few ladies that she is close w that I may have met once or twice but they are close w her so I wanted to let them enjoy.
Shower shouldn't be another wedding. It's people who know you on an intimate level and want to wish you well
I totally agree
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I agree it should definitely not be inviting every female invited to the wedding just because. I made my friends list, my mom made her list and my FMIL made her list. We were all reasonable in our decisions and still came in at 83 invitees (yikes LOL). You want people there are who are going to want to be there for you. I definitely think its important to let your FMIL be involved in the process if possible though because she should know who of her friends and family should be included.
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Ok thanks guys! I'm having a non traditional shower and there is a really small guest limit (which is how I wanted it) so it's kind of tough! But I invited FH's family that are close and that I feel close to and then my fam and friends so I think it'll work out fine. Plus with the guest limit I kind of have my hands tied! This wedding stuff is so hard when you are worrying about what everyone thinks I have to stop worrying!
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This is a tough situation that I feel we are all running into. I do not want people at my shower that I have never met before. Unfortunately it looks like there will be about 12 of them from my FH's side that I have NEVER met before and some that he has NEVER met before.......
