My friend is in a BP and told me that she and the other girls are all paying for the invitations and favors for the shower. I have never heard of this before, nor did I expect it. Has anyone else heard of this?
leesah85
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I know this is done a lot of times out of state. My best friend is getting married on Saturday in PA and the BMs paid for the shower from soup to nuts.
I've heard mostly in NY though that moms pay for the shower, but everyone is different.
BrideToBe2011
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My mom is paying for the shower, favors, and all of that stuff. I think my MOH is ordering/paying for the invites & they may be ordering a special cake. Majority is pretty much my mom.
LaBellaVita622
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Posted by leesah85
I know this is done a lot of times out of state. My best friend is getting married on Saturday in PA and the BMs paid for the shower from soup to nuts.
I've heard mostly in NY though that moms pay for the shower, but everyone is different.
that's what I thought! Especially since they spend so much being in the BPalready! They're even paying for everything for her for the Bachelorette Party.. I just didn't expect anyone to pay for anything. I was confused when I heard this all.
FutureMrsCarvell
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I have done this for every shower I've been to. I've always paid. I think my girls expect to help my mom pay also....and here I am thinking that is normal.
LaBellaVita622
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Posted by FutureMrsCarvell
I have done this for every shower I've been to. I've always paid. I think my girls expect to help my mom pay also....and here I am thinking that is normal.
Aww that is really nice! I have never been in a BP recently just one when I was 17 and I had no clue..but I didn't pay for any of it back then. I just feel bad for everything lol it's like a genetic disorder lol I don't like to make anyone spend $ lol
meghan13
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In my family the BP does the shower...
FutureMrsDe
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My mom and aunt are paying for the whole thing.
Tomsbride
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I think that is pretty standard.Unless the mother wants to pitch in to help out the bridesmaids they are suppose to pay for the shower.
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The last two showers I threw the mom paid for the restaurant but we paid for eveyrthing else and we threw the Bach party. Probably spend like $500 at each if not more.
DCgirl82
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Gawf I can do your invites and favors... we are pros now LoL
LaBellaVita622
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Posted by DCgirl82
Gawf I can do your invites and favors... we are pros now LoL
get out of here silly..I'm just sayin I wasn't expecting all of you guys to do that at all and I was surprised when I heard that people do it that way sinceI have never heard it before..I love your face though
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Posted by DCgirl82
Gawf I can do your invites and favors... we are pros now LoL
get out of here silly..I'm just sayin I wasn't expecting all of you guys to do that at all and I was surprised when I heard that people do it that way sinceI have never heard it before..I love your face though
I know you sexhead but I'll still do them if you want
CantWait2Wed
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Same here. I think my mom is helping a bit but the MOH is supposed to host
adelya21
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my MOH and one BM as well as FMIL are paying for it.
jilliebean84
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BP is supposed to host the shower b/c etiquette-wise, a mom wasn't supposed to host a shower since it is asking for gifts. (shower gifts are required, where wedding gifts are not)
Moms seem to host often these days, time's changing!! But I think your BMs would have expected to contribute to it when they said YES to being your BM! Don't worry!!
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if there is one thing I have learned for the many BPs I have been in, every shower and situation is different. There have been times the mom took care of everything, times where I had to chip in some money, and times where the BP paid for the entire shower.
I know for my shower, my mom is throwing it for me and is not expecting my girls to put in money toward anything. She said that they can take care of fun stuff like decorations and the games if they want but she does not want money for anything else because she wants to do this for me.
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Depends for my cousins shower we contributed like 50 bucks each for the favors abd decorations. Everything else my aunt paid for and my cousin the moh paid for the invities.
soontobmrsmike
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Almost every Bridal party I have been in the bridal party helps but the mother of the bride pays for the party. Who can afford to pay for someone's bridal shower when you are in the bridal party? IMO its alot to ask unless there is no parents to help or for some other personal reason.
The bridal party is usually responsible for the decorations, bridal shower games and prizes and then everyone chips in for an expensive gift off the registry. I think its alot to ask the bridal party to pay..
I told my mother she better not do that to my girls.
My mom will be in charge of the invites and do the inviting and stuff, coordinate the place and food.
The bridal party pays for the bachelorette party everyone chips in for that. They are paying for there dress and everything leading up to that point..
Thats-What-She-Said
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FSIL just got married on Friday. Congrats Kev and Meg!!! Anyway, we paid for favors and invites and her mom paid for the shower itself. But I have heard of the bridal party paying for everything. I don't think it is that uncommon.
