My mom refuses to throw me a shower ( for some reason or another... its a sore spot for me with her) so unfortunatly if i do have a shower my BP is going to have to pay for it... I feel really bad about it so i said if i dont have one... Oh well....
SoonToBeMrsCali
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I think it depends on who offers to THROW it... My friend offered to organize and throw she just said send me the guestlist.... And that's for the NY area people. My mom, SIL, and sister also brought up the idea of a bridal shower in CA, so I assume they would be responsible for it...
If they think about it, the BP is not spending nearly as much as the bride and groom or the parents....
alicia6650
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For half of the people I know, the mob pays for the shower. For the other half of the people i know (including me and my sisters) the correct thing is for the bridal party to pay for it.
I think it just totally depends on how that fmaily does it. For me, if my mom was paying for it, she would have had to pay for 4 bridal showers in like, 28 months...lol...so that is not how that happened. But she and my step mom both help out a lot. And when my friend just got married, it was the same thing- we paid for it, not her mom....
so I guess it just depends.
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Posted by FutureMrsPanuch
My mom refuses to throw me a shower ( for some reason or another... its a sore spot for me with her) so unfortunatly if i do have a shower my BP is going to have to pay for it... I feel really bad about it so i said if i dont have one... Oh well....
DO NOT feel bad....honestly, that is just how some people do it. I just paid for my 4th bridal shower in less than 3 years...and I never complained about it, because as far as me, my sisters, and the girls in each bp, thats just how its done.
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in my culture, and every bridal shower i have been to, the mother has paid for the bridal shower and the bride and groom have paid for the favors and invites unless they have already discussed this with their families
allornil
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I hope none of my friends get married and make me MOH right now bc I am BROKE! Broke Broke Broke!
hahaha.
chreesta
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I've heard of the bridal part paying but don't have any first hand experience. My mom is paying for my shower.
futurestevens
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i'm a BM in my friend's wedding and we just threw her shower a few weeks ago. the BMs paid for almost everything. MOB paid for paper goods and MOG paid for liquor. we each spent around $200
i think each situation is different though because when i was a BM in my cousin's wedding 3 years ago i didn't have to pay for a thing for the shower.
to be honest, i'm not sure what the situation will be for mine. my parents were just divorced so mom is struggling a little bit right now. i guess as we get sooner to that time it's something i'll discuss with her
itbroi805
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it depends...I always thought that the BP chips in but its up to the mother of the bride really....my mother has already said she wants to plan the whole thing and pay for it..
I designed and paid for invites when I was a BM and another BM paid for the favors.
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i have heard of this- my sister who is my MOH was ready to get with the girls to foot the bill - however my awesome FSIL is going to host and foot the bill :)
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mrsq2be
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for the 3 BP's I was in - the BM's chipped in and paid for 2 of those 3. the MOB helped a bit also, but the cost was split.
