Bridal Shower VENT

So my mom, who by all accounts is an intelligent, well spoken woman, for whatever reason decides she needs to enlist my assistance in picking my shower invitations??

I have two MOH, my SIL and my FSIL and my other FSIL and plenty of my friends who are not in the wedding party but who i have grown up with and would be happy to help my mom if she had any questions. At least with respect to the two MOH--who are FAMILY, my mom shouldnt have to ask them for their help they should initiate helping.

I got annoyed at first bc I really dont want to know anything about the shower, and figured this is something that my (small) bridal party and family should take lead on without consulting- I mean its supposed to be FOR ME. .. then figured if it makes my moms life easier I should stop being a brat, because after all she is just trying to do what I would like and is doing it for me and maybe just needs my help bc she isnt getting any elsewhere?

So I got past being annoyed at picking my own invitations and moved on. Now my mom calls me to ask me whether she needs to put a 'host' for the shower-- and starts rambling about who's hosting, what to do and what not to do, how one of my MOH (my SIL) is hosting but she's putting both my MOH names on etc etc.. I am on the phone like...???? seriously? Why am i dealing with this?

Besides the fact that I am NOT the person she should be discussing this with.. she has friends etc who she can seek advice from, she basically let it slip that my SIL,/MOH is hosting it (by that she meant having it at her house). Great so much for being surprised!

???? Am i being a brat or does this sound totally ridiculous to you?

It does sound totally ridiculous my mother did the same to me and now i know every detail about my shower . I know how you feel because you want to be surprised and just let other ppl handle it since you have enough to worry about it.

I did! I said I wanted to be surprised and really didnt wnat to be involved at all.. I have been totally hands off .. happilly but she knows I am a contol freak I guess which is why when I got upset she said ' I am just asking you bc i dont want to hear afterwards that you were not happy about something or question why I did it a certain way'

Which made me feel so bad that she viewed me as such a tyrrant or ingrate .. lol but I swear I didnt say anything about the shower-- just that I wanted to be sure she include mY FSIL's so they wouldnt feel left out.

i feel ya sweetheart.

I want zero stress when it comes to mine and i started getting phone calls asking about who is on the guest list and all that jazz. It's like email and phones exist for a reason, people. Don't involve me!