Ok, so here's the deal. 8 years ago I was engaged to be married to someone else. Had the wedding planned, the shower, the whole 9 yards. I cancelled the wedding 2 weeks before because I realized that I didn't love the guy and I couldn't go through with it. Fast foward to now. New guy, new life. I'm getting married in January. My mother informs me that she's not going to throw me a Bridal Shower because I've already had one and I don't deserve another one. Did I miss something here? Why is she the one that's bitter over this? She actually told me that nobody on my side of the family would go because they're STILL mad at me for not marrying my old guy. Does this seem wrong to anyone BUT me?
PegaLega
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WOW I definitely think its wrong of them to be 'mad' at you for calling off the first one...I mean isnt that better then the divorce
As far as the rest-I dont think its that you dont deserve it, maybe she just doesnt want to do it again? I dont know
MayWeddingGrl
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wow, thats harsh of your mother.
I would think they would be happy that you didn't marry and then end up divorced from that first guy.
I guess I could possibly see them being slightly upset if you didn't return their gifts, but if you did, then for them to get all upset just seems... well... messed up!!
maybe have your shower someplace else with your friends then.
jaep129
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Its def. wrong! I have a prob too I am facing and everyone says you see who your true friends are and your families true colors! I would be mad and say something!
MJDoc12
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wow--that really stinks!
i guess i wouldn't be holding my breath for her to pay for the shower. maybe you and the BP can chip in and when she sees one is being planned--she might help out anyway?
WinterBride10
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Talk to your MOH and tell her your situation. Ask her to talk to the rest of the bridal party and see if they can all chip in to throw you a shower. Invite the family and if they don't come then they don't come. Don't let your mother get your down!
Lots of luck!
agraydc
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wow, that is def way wrong of your mom to do and say!!!!
sometimes moms are missing that edit part of the brain, and just say things without thinking of anyones feelings.
so you have bridesmaids that could throw you a shower?? and if your mom apologizes then they could invite her, but only if you want her there
I am sure all your family just wants you to be happy and they understand that you had to do what you did.
sorry you are going through this, we are all here for you
MaggieLuvsJoe
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I already replied to you in the 09 board but I wanted to give you more
I hope everything works out the way you want it, you really do deserve to have another shower
Mrs B to Be
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oh you poor thing! how has she reacted to the rest of your wedding planning? could she be reacting b/c she liked the other guy better, or do you think maybe shes somehow embarassed to throw a second one? wondering what other family/friends might think?
it sounds like she has some underlying issue than just being mean and that you dont deserve one....i mean come on 8 years is a significant amount of time i dont think it would be inappropriate at all to have a shower for this wedding......or at the very least a lingerie luncheon just to celebrate the fact that you found the one and your happy!
GL - I hope it all works out for you!
squeekietoy
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Posted by Mrs B to Be
oh you poor thing! how has she reacted to the rest of your wedding planning? could she be reacting b/c she liked the other guy better, or do you think maybe shes somehow embarassed to throw a second one? wondering what other family/friends might think?
it sounds like she has some underlying issue than just being mean and that you dont deserve one....i mean come on 8 years is a significant amount of time i dont think it would be inappropriate at all to have a shower for this wedding......or at the very least a lingerie luncheon just to celebrate the fact that you found the one and your happy!
GL - I hope it all works out for you!
My mom is disabled. I'm sure that has alot to do with this. My sisters would really be the ones putting the shower together, my mother would just be financing it. But, judging how she has been with how I've been talking about the wedding thus far....she's not interested. She's more interested in my sisters wedding. (She's getting married 2 months after I am.) So, I guess I should have suspected this. I guess maybe she feels that I had my time to shine (8 years ago), so now it's my sisters turn.
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I did the SAME EXACT thing - to the 'T'. This time it's actually different for me. Almost 10 years has passed....& my mom, her brother (uncle) , & their mom (grandma) have moved to FL. My other grandma is now in a nursing home....SO, those that 'would have', can't. BUT I figured that I felt bad for having another one.....& was choosing not to have one. P.S. My fiance's sisters (the 3 in NY) - will NOT have that! SO, they are having one for me because they feel I'm 'entitled', different life..., they go to everyone else's..., so....apparently I'm having one
