Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
Original post by sarahradio5
My mom is kind of upset that she and my dad are paying for EVERYTHING (along with me and my FH) and we're not getting anything from my FH's side (NOTHING... nada... BIG bone of contention here)... and I was planning on putting the following:
Mr. and Mrs. 'my parents' request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter me to FH son of FH's mom and the late FH's dad
THAT'S the line that my mom got a little peeved at.
Should I just not put it? She has a little point. His mom just apparently doesn't see the point of big weddings and thinks it's all silly, therefore isn't offering to help with anything, even though she originally said she's help, and then said she never said that.
Should I leave it out?
Now her name will be on the RD invite since that is the one thing she is doing. What do I do?
bridy06
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I wrote his parent's names on our invite.
smurray
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Posted by Goldi1021
My IL's didnt contribute but their names were on the invite. My mother's name was the first line and their names followed DH's. I felt that DH's parents deserved the acknowledgement and that people should know the family from which DH came from. The wedding was not just about who shelled out the money - it was the joining of two familes. Everyone knew my family paid for the wedding anyway.
Leslie, This was so well put. I agree w/ everything stated above. I personally could care less who has paid for what, I feel they deserve to be put on the invites b/c they are his parents. FH, and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, so should that mean neither of our parents should be on the invites b/c neither paid??? JMO
ccraz
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Unfortunately, I didn't think too much on this one since my parents and us as well, are paying..and FH didn't mind. I didn't put them on it, and as I read this long post I feel bad b/c I didn't do it to cause waves at all..I just hope they aren't feeling upset over it I was under the impression that you use the names of those who are paying,but I guess like many other things, it's your own choice to make..decisions, decisions!
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why do we have to demonstrate who's paying?
Both of our parents helped us a bit but both were listed as equals on the invite.
It's a joining of families not a credit card receipt!
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I would leave the line in. The invitation clearly states your parents are inviting them. The mention of FH's parents is a sign of respect. She is still his mother and deserves recognintion. We all should keep in mind the wedding isn't about who is paying for what, but uniting with your fh in marriage. It is about family coming together not anything else. JMO
