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Amor2009 Posted:

brides maid advice

geegee827 Posted:

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Can you see yourself ever getting back to the same level of friendship you had before all of this? If not, I wouldn't ask her.

If you have lost that trust and that strong bond, then there's no point of her being in the wedding. I've had too many friends who had friends of theirs at the time in their wedding party whom they no longer speak to. It's important to pick people who you know without a doubt will be there for you your entire life. Also, think about how FH would feel.
gigglebride Posted:

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In my opinion the bridal party is there to not only help you with wedding logistics, but also they're standing up as a group and saying they support your marriage, meaning both the bride and groom. Personally, I would feel weird having a bridesmaid that my fiance also didn't want as part of the wedding, so I think it should be a joint decision between you and your FH. Just my opinion.
rocketsummer17 Posted:

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if i was in your situation I would more than likely not ask her to be in my BP. I wouldnt want someone up on the altar with me who doesnt believe in my marraige or my FH...
Also if she felt it was appropriate to say all those things about FH in front of friends and FH, what might come out of her mouth at a wedding function??
Amor2009 Posted:

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geegee827 Posted:

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I would just drop the subject. If she feels bad about it, she'll ask you. Then you can tell her why she wasn't asked.

MrsL2010 Posted:

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i would let her figure it out for herself. as the time gets closer to the wedding, she may or may not wonder why she hasn't been asked. if she questions you about it, tell her why you aren't asking her.

Reesy Posted:

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Posted by Amor2009

Thanks!! I just feel bad, cause I know her feelings will be hurt. But it doesn't feel right asking her. Do you think I should talk to her about it? Or just let her realize it on her own?


Obviously she wasn't thinking about your or your fh's feelings when she made that rude comment. Although you guys are friendly again it is your fh's day too and she didn't apologize so I say don't ask. It's not like you asked her and are taking it back, and it's not like she's your sister. She may be hurt but oh well, she should understand and get over it.
dCp Posted:

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My personnal opinoin is that you answered your own question when you posted this dilema. If you have to think about it she probably shouldnt be in your bridal party.

MrsList09 Posted:

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I would just not ask her. In my opinion, if she treated FH that way, she doesn't have much respect for you as her friend, because she didn't apologize, even if she says she felt bad. Plus if you're on the fence and FH really doesn't like her, then why push this issue with FH?

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