When lots of people with experience say 'Wow! that's crazy' you may want to give it some weight.. :)
People live a lot different than you think. Personally, it's my opinion you really need to live with someone to know if you should marry them. ;)
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Nop... Not at all! Never got that... In fact when I tell ppl We are engaged and still dont live together bc we want to save for a house, EVERYONE has told us is the SMARTEST thing we could have ever done.... They say its a good idea to save for a house and no live together now...
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FH has a house and I am live at home, I only left for 3 years in my early 20s. I'll start phasing myself into his house closer to the wedding next year. I don't feel judgement from anyone. If anything people always say how great it is that he has a house already,
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i def get what you mean....alot of time people say oh you really should live together before and for us right now we cant because we want to save..and my father is a very strict Italian man n wont allow it lol but i do get upset when people say you dont know what its like to live with him and no i may not know exactly but ive been with him for almost 5 years and we do spend most nights at my house here lol him in hte basement of course..but idk i def get what you mean bc i get that too..and if we could live together maybe we would and for those who can i think its great too!
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Posted by Lex87
When lots of people with experience say 'Wow! that's crazy' you may want to give it some weight.. :)
People live a lot different than you think. Personally, it's my opinion you really need to live with someone to know if you should marry them. ;)
I agree with you just because I did it the opposite way too....i was engaged before and we didn't live together.....it turns out that I did not know alot of things about him that I would have known if we lived together so this time around b4 i even got engaged i told fh that i need to live w/ them and he agreed
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My FH and I dont live together but we do own a house together we bought it 2 years ago and we rent it out it was a good investment so thats why we did it, people say we were crazy cause we weren't engaged but we always knew we would get married =) So we will move in together into our house once we get married
And yea it gets annoying cause we get the same reaction from people someone actually asked me 'when you guys get married are you still going to live home and he still live at his house' LOL People ask the stupidest questions
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Ok, so basically you can't win either way!! lol... So if you don't live together you don't know what you're getting into and you're doomed, and if you do live together you're living in sin!???! lol
I guess you are damned if you do and damned if you don't!! lol, thanks girls I feel a lil better.. I just think where I live is no indication of how strong my relationship is and shouldn't be a reason for judgement.. I don't believe living apart is bad, and I don't believe being able to live together is bad either (I think it's awesome actually, just not in the cards for us).. lol but I guess any living situation is bad??
lol pretty much. You can't please everyone so just please yourself!
ITA!
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My FH and I were going to move in together end of last year, but after my work hrs got cut it wasn't going to be possible.. I think it happened for a reason because now we just got engaged and are planning our wedding so living home allows us to save up as much money as possible within the next year for our future
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My FH and I were going to move in together end of last year, but after my work hrs got cut it wasn't going to be possible.. I think it happened for a reason because now we just got engaged and are planning our wedding so living home allows us to save up as much money as possible within the next year for our future
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON! SEE LOVE YOU!!! XOXOX <3
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I agree with PP that people will ALWAYS have something to say.
I don't live with FH although he does have his own place, so it would be cheaper/just as cheap for me to live there, but right now I also support my mom, so that's where my money goes.
Also, in my family for the most part, you do NOT move in until you're married. I would never ever EVER hear the end of it, even though we've been together for 11 years, we're 28 years old, and we were supposed to get married in 2006.
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ugh, i get this sh** allll the time. how annoying. i actually get girls that go on and on and on about it!. im like geezzzz its our decision!!
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As of right now I don't live with FH, we live at our parents houses. We planned on finding a place together around the end of the year so that we could save up some money but still have time for us and my son to adjust before the wedding. FH's parents just sold their house though so now we are moving in August 1st!
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Sometimes. I feel like people think we need to live together first so that its not a big change after we get married. We are getting married next August and I think we will try to move in somewhere a few months before the wedding. I would really like to be settled before we have the wedding and the honeymoon. Especially because we are coming home from out honeymoon and going right back to work. We live at home because we cant afford to move out right now because neither of us have permanent jobs. I hope that changes in the next year because I don't know what we are going to do lol!
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Posted by Lex87
When lots of people with experience say 'Wow! that's crazy' you may want to give it some weight.. :)
People live a lot different than you think. Personally, it's my opinion you really need to live with someone to know if you should marry them. ;)
I agree with you just because I did it the opposite way too....i was engaged before and we didn't live together.....it turns out that I did not know alot of things about him that I would have known if we lived together so this time around b4 i even got engaged i told fh that i need to live w/ them and he agreed
Personally, I've been with FH for 11 years, if I don't know him by now, I never will. It's not that i don't think the first few months of living together will be challenging, but we're already used to navigating the world as a couple. We also already went through a lot of power struggles in setting up his apartment.
For us, I'm glad we don't live together because I want marriage to be a new adventure. I wouldn't want to come back from the Honeymoon tot he same apt and same live we'd been living before
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I think I get judged more for living home with my parents than no living FH lol. But, to be honest I prefer to live apart before we get married. IMO it makes getting married a little more exciting because its something new.
