MY TWO OLDER SISTERS ARE MY MOH MY MOTHER HAS BEEN PRESSURING ME TO ASK MY OTHER SIS TO BE A BM. HER AND I ARENT VERY CLOSE I WAS GOING TO HAVE HER DO A READING BUT ANY WAY MY MOM THINKS I DID NOT ASK HER BECAUSE SHE IS VERY UNATTRACTIVE SHE NEVER TOOK CARE OF HERSELF SHE ACTUALLY LOOKS OLDER THAN MY MOM, WHAT DO I DO ASK HER, OR HOPE MY MOM DROPS IT. I DONT WANT TO HURT NOONE EITHER,PLUS MY WEDDING PARTY IS BIG ALREADY HELP
yeah I agree too. No matter what when it comes down to it she is still your sister, and who knows maybe this will help you two build a better relationship. But if you have your other sisters in the BP she will probably feel horrible being excluded
I have both my sisters in my party. I could not just ask one and not the other, I would feel terrible. Def put her in, she is your sis, ugly or pretty she is still your sis. Does she care at all that you have not already asked her?
You have to ask her.....as a mother I know that not only will you hurt your sister terribly, but your mom will be hurt for her too.
I think you should ask her to be in your BP, this could be the thing that brings you two closer. I hope everythig works out and even with a 20 person BP, one more won't kill you. GL
you really need to ask her.. shes your sister.
I can kinda relate...I don't have FH's two sisters in the wedding. i do not get along with his one sister...so I did not ask her. I did ask the other sister, who said 'yes' originally, then changed her mind because she did not want to hurt her sisters feelings. I have been getting hell for this the entire year from his family. I wish I would have just put her in it...ayway....I would ask your sister....she is your sister and you will probably regret it as the time gets closer.....good luck....
you may want to consider having her since she is your sister. But we don't know you or your situation. But it may be a nice gesture. Or ask her if she would rather be a BM or do a reading and leave it up to her to decide?
I was in the same situation.......my younger sister is my MOH (which she shouldn't be, b/c she could care less about me or my wedding, she's a total selfish biitch), and my older sister is very heavy, and if she were in my wedding I would probably have to change what I wanted for my BM dresses to help make her look better. But as we've gotten older we got much closer, and I asked her b/c it was the right thing to do. She absolutely refused!!! She's very shy, and she said that's why she got married at city hall b/c she didn't want the attention on her! She won't even do a reading (really bad stage fright - she would probably throw up!). My point is, it's the right thing to do to ask both sisters. The other one may not want to be in the bridal party for her own reasons, and then you can ask her to do a reading if she doesn't want to be in the BP.
thank you everyone for the great advice , im going to call her today, and this just may be the start of a great relationship with my sister thanks again
